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Have you heard of erotic, orgasmic hypnosis? Look into my eyes...

In today's Sun newspaper I've commented on the phenomenon of orgasm-inducing hypnosis.

This has had some great results however you must be careful with a powerful technique like hypnosis.

Here are two women's experiences and my cautionary words.
Look after yourself, Pam x

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Got the January blues? Wellbeing not up to much?

In today's Sun newspaper I wrote about my top handful of tips to help you prioritise your wellbeing this year. ONly you can do it!

The problem is, when you're in the grip of a wellbeing-slump, too much info is just too much!

So the best way around this was to drop a few top tips to get you started. Hope they help...

Take care of yourself, give them a go, Pam x

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Hot tips to kick-start your sex life in 2019...

The Sun asked me and some other sex bloggers and sexperts for a few tips to get your 2019 off with a bang...check it out - there are some fun tips
Although the tip that's on my own 'to do' list for 2019 was edited out! Too hot, maybe?
Have fun, Pam x


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Is it possible to get through Christmas without getting stressed out?

Yes! And here are some tips of mine in the Sun newspaper.

Christmas doesn't have to be stressmas. Give yourself the gift of Christmas calm...

Happy holidays, Pam x

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THE OUTER PLEASURE OF INNER SENSES! My beauty blog in time for Christmas!

I am a skincare fanatic and it’s all down to my mother. As I was growing up she repeatedly warned me to look after my skin because she hadn’t looked after hers.

We’d go shopping for lotions and potions and creams and it was fun mother-daughter time. It established a lifelong habit of experimenting with new beauty and skin care products.

So I was delighted when the lovely people at Inner Senses Organic Beauty and Wellbeing sent me a range of their organic, award-winning, aromatherapy products to try.

I’ve lavished my face and body with their sumptuous, all-natural oils over the last few weeks.

Feeling your best includes how you feel inside and out!

I’ve mentioned in previous beauty blogs, that as a psychologist and self-help expert, I know how important it is to keep both our inner and outer selves in tiptop shape.

For your outer self these aromatherapy oils are a joy to apply - across the board - from the facial to the body oils. They feel fabulous all over your face and body.

With your outer-self glowing, it can’t help but lift your inner self!

Here are my thoughts on some of their extensive range.

GLOW FACIAL OIL – I absolutely love facial serums and ‘Glow’ must be one of the most gorgeous I’ve ever tried.

For starters, it has a heavenly scent of orange flowers. But what sets it apart is how light and easily absorbable it is, gliding onto your skin easily.

And a huge benefit is you can apply Glow in the morning under makeup for a ‘dewy’ look. Or wear it to bed as I do to maintain a healthy 24-hour glow.

I can honestly say it makes your skin look amazing.

SENSUAL BODY OIL - If you know my work then you’ll know a lot of it is writing about sex and relationships. I saw ‘sensual’ in the name and I couldn’t wait to get my hands on this.

What a dreamy oil it is with Jasmine and Rose Otto combined with Sandalwood and Patchouli. Yes, it’s the perfect skin softener for apres-showering, gliding on like a little haven of luxury. But you can also ask your partner smooth it on for you! Indulge each other and have a pleasurable, sensual experience.

INNER SENSES ROSE PRECIOUS FACIAL OIL - This is very special indeed. Created with organic nutrients and Rose Essence that Inner Senses specifies as “highly active”, it gave my facial skin a real boost.

It felt luxuriant and most of all, moisturising. That’s mega important for me because I tend to have dry skin.

My complexion definitely benefited from using this precious oil!


INNER SENSES BEAUTY POTENTIATING FACIAL ELIXIR OIL - When I saw this was particularly good for stressed out skin, I knew this little beauty was for me! Work has been crazy-busy and it definitely shows in my skin. Plus I know in myself, how I’ve been working hard to manage stress levels. That’s my job after all.                    

This has a lovely and exotic mix of Prickly Pear, Strawberry and Moringa seed oils. These ingredients are particularly good for rebalancing skin affected by environmental stress.

I lavished my skin with it for three days and nights running as a ‘test’ and really loved the results!

INNER SENSES 7 WONDERS SKIN PANACEA FACE & BODY OIL - This award-winning face and body oil is perfection if you simply want to indulge yourself with one product. It contains a formidable list of nature’s own ingredients for revitalising your body and face.

The list includes Arctic Blackberry, Camellia seed, Rosemary, Rich green avocado and even Coenzyme Q10.

For the face and neck, you gently massage a small amount into your skin, once or twice a day. For the body you use a more generous helping.

Or – as I started doing – I use it as a weekly skin-treat.


INNER SENSES TRANQUIL BODY OIL - Because I work hard – and play hard – I relished the thought of this tranquillity-inducing body. Containing calming ingredients like Lavender, Mandarin, and Petitgrain oils, it is a lovely oil to smooth on over your body.

Using it at night was a real treat. It’s not heavy and it’s definitely not over-scented, so it’s perfect to use alongside calming, mindful, thoughts. Sleep well using it!

Check out Inner Senses here!

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Sizzling seasonal sex positions for you!

I always aim to please and bring you some fun when there's so much doom and gloom around.
So check out my new the Sun newspaper column to give you frisky festive cheer!
Enjoy, Pam x

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It's feeling Christmas-y with my gorgeous giveaway!!

I've teamed up with the lovely people at Hot Octopuss (find them online and on Twitter @HotOctopuss) to giveaway one luxurious, sensuous Queen Bee pleasure toy worth £99!!

It has five different pulsating/oscillating functions for loads of pleasure.
See my twitter feed on my homepage for your chance to enter the competition!
I'm always one for experimenting so it's definitely worth a try putting the oscillating pleasure-point to good use on different erogenous zones. Spread the pleasure, spread the love!
And the Queen Bee is excellent for solo pleasure and getting your partner involved to help explore the different, powerful sensations it creates.
Plus as it's waterproof you can do explore away in the shower or bath too.

Have fun sex-perimenting, Pam x

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Do you have OCD? Read on...

Do you repeatedly check you've locked your door or turned your iron off? Or do you experience other compulsive behaviours? Where you feel you MUST go check something?
Do you have obsessive thoughts about things ranging from your hair being 'prefectly' in place to personal safety, or falling over in public, or off the edge of a train platform by accident? or other such thoughts? You're far from alone!
Rita Simons, the EastEnders' star who's in the celebrity jungle right now has been honest about her experience of OCD.
As so many people experience some symptoms of it - or even full blown oCD - here are some tips to get started with in my Sun newspaper column...
I hope they help you and you can start controlling your OCD rather than it controlling you!
Take care, Pam x

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Are you getting 'cuffed' for Christmas? Take my quiz and check out the tips!

If you're single or dating you'll probably know what 'cuffing' is - it's when you get together with someone who deep down you know probably isn't 'the one'. But you reckon they'll keep you warm over the winter. Plus you'll have someone to share Christmas and New Year with.
It can work out just fine but there are downsides so check out my quiz and advice!
And if you're cuffing-up with someone to use them for a onth or two, best remain single...
Take care, Pam x


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A few things you need to know about orgasm and self pleasure!

In my new column for the Sun newspaper online I've got the low down for you on the stages of orgasm with tips to make them hotter!
PLUS the positives of masturbation...and the pitfall that you must avoid.
Have fun, Pam x

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