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Dear Dr Pam,
We just got a hot tub and my husband wants to break it in! My problem is that the last few times we've had sex in water, I got really dry after a short while. Is there anything that would help keep me wet or at least not so dry? Ellie x
Dear "Hot-tub love",
First let me clarify that I’m not a medical doctor - I'm a doctor of psychology. That said, I have had to research many articles about sexual health. So I know that due to the various pool chemicals used in swimming-pools and hot tubs many women (and men) get irritated by these. They're much harsher then common shower gels and soaps - and even those can irritate the delicate P.H. balance of the vagina. This means you can feel dry and irritated when you want to enjoy "hot" and sexy hot-tub-sex!
One thing that many people find helpful is to insert a "dollop" of a lubricant (that agrees with your body chemistry) before entering the hot tub. Simply scoop some onto your clean index finger and slip it deep into your vagina to give you ongoing lubrication.
Another solution is to engage in foreplay before you get in the tub so that you're nice and the lubricated in your vagina. Then don't hang about for long once you slip into the hot tub before you try penetrative sex. Your husband can also try slipping on a nice lubricated condom just before entering you to see if that helps.
Once you've enjoyed some exciting sex then don't hang around in the hot tub. Instead get out and share a lovely, soothing shower together to wash away the pool chemicals. Don't use shower gels or soaps - just clear, plain water from the shower.
Enjoy! Pam x
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