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Dear Dr. Pam,
I hope you can help! My boyfriend's ex-wife had an amazing figure. She really could’ve been a Page Three girl. He doesn't have photos of her around his flat but I know this because she lives locally.
Although I have a pretty face my figure is nothing to write home about - I'm a standard size 16/18. I like to think of myself as a full-figured woman but it's not a patch on her amazing body. He tells me not to be silly and that he loves me and my shape plus that I'm better in bed than she was anyway. I love him but fear this’ll tear us apart. Linda, 27x x x
So often people e-mail me about an issue and I recommend they don't listen to what their partner says [because often their partner's putting them down] but in your case I'm going to tell you to listen to him.
He sounds like a great guy and he tells you he loves you and your figure. He even says you’re better in bed (although I don't like people comparing lovers to their ex-lovers - even if it's a favourable comparison!).
The big question you have to answer is do you trust him? If your answer is ‘yes’ you do trust him then you must trust what he says about you. Otherwise you risk driving a wedge between you two - and that wedge is your paranoia about his ex. I've heard of this happening time and time again.
So switch off your anxious inner voice about him wanting her - he doesn't. Keep reminding yourself the you two are having a good time. Love the body you have and just make sure you feel fit, well and energetic - that's all that counts, not being a super slim size 10.
Finally, boost your body confidence when you two are going to have fun between the sheets and slip into clothes you feel sexy in and that show off your fantastic fuller figure. Enjoy what you have and don't look back to his past.
Also on my homepage go to "Powerful Living" and there are a couple body image boosting articles there.
Take care of yourself, Pamx
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