Bullying at work, in brief…
Preventing Christmas party disasters!
"Prevention is most definitely better than cure when it comes to the office party season. My mailbag’s always full after the Christmas party season when I hear from people who’ve either made themselves look foolish when it comes to love or alcohol - or both!
Here are some preventive tips – 1. If there’s someone you’re desperately attracted to at your office, and know you'll find it hard to resist chatting to them at the party, take these precautions. Think through the sorts of things you might say to them so that you won't scare them off. For example, you could plan things like "It’d be great if we could go for a drink one evening." Flirt by all means, but in a way that’s not OTT. There’s a massive difference between laughing at their jokes, snuggling up to them, and generally letting them know you're attracted to them - and grabbing them and giving them a massive snog in front of everyone. 2. Discuss with a trusted colleague how you think they’ll respond to that. 3. Enlist said colleague as a "crisis buddy" on the night. So if you feel you're about make a fool of yourself you can ring them, or if they’re at the event too, go over and stay with them. 4. Always alternate alcoholic drinks with non-alcoholic drinks. Avoid sparkling mineral water or fizzy drinks that facilitate the alcohol effect, instead choose "still" drinks as alternates. 5. Eat a proper meal before the event, as the finger foods at such things don’t help absorb any excess alcohol. 6. If your plan to stay out of trouble go horribly wrong and you end up dancing drunkenly on a table-top and flirting outrageously with your boss, a quiet apology the next day is better than a stony/embarrassed silence. 7. After that - let ‘em talk! Better to be talked about for being the life and soul of the party than to be the retiring wallflower that no one notices. Having apologised the "who cares" attitude is the only way to go. 8. It's terribly important that you’ve a plan to get home during the party season. Cab companies get booked up and you don't want to be stuck walking somewhere late at night. Make sure you and a friend keep tabs on each other and you both get home safely. 9. Suggest that your company puts on cabs for employee safety.”
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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