Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
The beautiful weather continues but spare a thought for people stuck around the world - I've got a friend stuck in South Africa who must be getting pretty desperate because she runs her own business in London and heavens knows when she's going to get back now.
Saturday night we got out the Indian recipe book and cooked a fantastic curry for our house guests. It was tasty, aromatic and not very difficult - if I get the time but the recipe up on the site. And for a change I made rice that actually was fairly light and fluffy rather then the grey goop my rice usually is.
Last night I did a pre-recorded interview with a syndicated radio station network that actually won't be broadcast until May 2nd - I'll give you a heads-up when I know for sure. But we discussed various aspects of unhappiness and how people can turn unhappiness around.
Again this was based on my new book How to be a Happy Human. Some of the interesting things the presenter and I discussed included when people use alcohol, drugs or something like comfort-eating to "medicate their unhappiness". They try and bury unhappy feelings rather than facing them and embracing them - and changing the situation that makes them unhappy.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: Then we discussed something that always makes people think - what I call the "future-dependent happiness trap".
I'd like to ask you if you base your happiness on something happening or changing in your future -saying things to yourself like: I'll be happy when I get a new job, or happy when I find a partner, or happy when I lose a stone in weight, etc?
Because the future-dependent happiness trap means people live for their future and miss out on what's going on in their lives today. And who can predict the future? You can’t! But you can enjoy moments of happiness in your life today and stop overlooking them. In my book I give various tips on how to do this.
Why not get in touch through "your e-mail of the week" with your experiences of the future- dependent happiness trap?
I'm off to Tunbridge Wells to see my adopted "gran" – can’t wait as some old friends and I are going to take her a picnic lunch - she's almost 92! She's such a character and has lived such an amazing life.She knows how to grab each happy moment as they come.
Have a lovely Monday - if that's possible - I know how many people hate Mondays, Pam X
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
Discover the relationship between your dreams and your sex- and love-life! Go on a journey of self-discovery in this unique dream book. Case studies, a dream directory, and ‘dreamersises’ help you interpret your dreams.
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No. 1 selling book offering you tons of fantastic sex tips PLUS a new and revolutionary ways of looking at sexual pleasure and ‘problems‘ and how they fit into a person's whole life and relationships.
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