Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
I'm so looking forward to my ‘agony’ radio slot on Dublin News talk at 10 AM as the producer has told me we have some really interesting dilemmas to discuss. Including a woman who has discovered her brother is having an affair - and she wonders if she should tell her sister-in-law who she absolutely loves. No, confront her brother first! And also a 44-year-old man who thinks he may be suffering from depression but isn't sure. We'll check out those symptoms.
I can't wait to get my hands on this week's Love it! magazine as I believe I've got a couple hot questions in my Sex Confidential column.
Ok, calling all men as things might be about to change if you suffer from premature ejaculation. Have you read about the new tablet that will make some women's hearts sink!? In the press yesterday and today there are reports of the premature ejaculation (PE) pill - Priligy - that'll make some women - wait for it - dread the bedroom. Yup, I said dread the bedroom! Read on...
Although men may hate their PE, in confidence many women tell me they're quite happy to have it over and done with quickly. They are so stressed and tired with our modern lifestyles that they don't want long love sessions!
Take Janey, 36 (a pseudonym) married for six years. She's quite relieved that her husband is 'quick on the draw' and has admitted confidentially that she doesn't have the time - or the desire - in her busy life as a working mother to fit in passionate sessions between the sheets.
She has the children that she wanted (two under fives)band she loves her career as a designer and doesn't miss the "honeymoon phase" of their early days together in the slightest.
This is an issue that men who are running in their droves for the pharmacy that’s prescribing the pill privately need to consider. Because what some women tell me confirms research that many women prefer less foreplay so it's over or more quickly. However let's not forget that many women want lots of foreplay and a long sex session! You simply need to know what your partner really wants!
Also in the papers today was a piece about the benefits of laughter and I've always said ‘Laughter is just what the 'happiness doctor' ordered’! In my new book How to be a Happy Human one passage is all about laughter being the best medicine.
So, this report says that laughter can be as good as exercise. This is music to my ears - I'm always encouraging stressed clients (and their partners) to watch comedy films, to record hours of their favourite sitcoms from the comedy channels, to get out to comedy gigs, etc. Laughter is a fantastic 'medicine' and this piece could use anecdotes exploring this.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: think about the last time you really laughed with a loved one - how good was that?! My hubby had me in stitches with his imitations of various celebs at the weekend (he’s at least as good as Rory Bremner!) - honestly I had tears in my eyes. Endorphins produced by such laughter gives you a feelgood buzz for a number of hours - so get out for some comedy or see a comedy film.
Its glorious sunshine outside so I hope you have a wonderful day, Pam X p.s. loving Plan B right now even though a lot of people claim they like his earlier stuff.
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
Discover the relationship between your dreams and your sex- and love-life! Go on a journey of self-discovery in this unique dream book. Case studies, a dream directory, and ‘dreamersises’ help you interpret your dreams.
My research found if a couple's been together more than one year it's unlikely you've tried any new sex tip, trick or technique for at least four months! Rescue's at hand with my 250 hottest sex tips for every aspect of your sex life.
No couple or single can be without this unique, best-selling book containing a vast range of techniques, tricks and tips to turn your lover on. From attracting someone new to recharging your old relationship, Fabulous, explores each of the sexual senses in turn!
No. 1 selling book offering you tons of fantastic sex tips PLUS a new and revolutionary ways of looking at sexual pleasure and ‘problems‘ and how they fit into a person's whole life and relationships.
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