Squaring up to Your Shynes...
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Recently I've been dealing with a lot of people finding it hard to get over breakups. And on my iVillage.co.uk blog that’ll go live sometime today, I tried to point a woman in the right direction: to move on and forget her ex.
Her problem? She talks about how painful things were, but then goes on to say she'll never meet another man like him. What… another one man that'll give her pain? I'm sure there are plenty of those around! But surely she doesn't want another man who causes her pain? Sometimes people are irrational in the grip of heartbreak!
Did you hear about the organisation wanting to sterilise long-term, drug addicted women? I haven't looked at the detail but the concept grabs me as completely sensible. You may think this is astounding but evidently this organisation in America offers chronically drug addicted women a chance to get sterilised.
Sounds unethical and cruel? Well, maybe it is, but until I read the details of this organisation’s programme and see if they have some darker motives or not, I'd like to float the concept at a general level. So let's just think of this concept that women who've been chronic, long-term drug users - over years and years and haven't been able to give up - should be discouraged to bring children into their very dark and miserable world. A good thing I think! Because only some softheaded, numpty that's blinded by political correctness could possibly think that it's these women's rights to bring babies into their lives - lives that are completely unmanageable and nightmarish. I say: what about such children's rights? It's certainly something that should be thought about. Remember this is about very long-term chronically addicted women NOT people who have had "skirmishes" with drugs or overcome their problem with drugs - that's a completely different story and something to be commended wholeheartedly!
Now, uncontroversially, did you see the report yesterday that chimps mourn like humans? A fascinating piece of research showing how much like humans they are, when it comes to grief. And I wasn't surprised by this story about chimps as I had a family of three cats (I'm not talking about the brother and sister cats I now have and have had for the last five years) - but our original cat family: the mother (Fifi), her son (Bopper) and her daughter (Lula) and when they were 13 years old (this would be seven years ago) the daughter, Lula, tragically died and my other two cats went into mourning.
Her brother, Bopper, literally ‘yowled’ for her every night - a heart breaking cry - and her mother, Fifi, was listless. The next year Bopper died from kidney failure and Fifi wasn't herself for a number of months. It was horrible. Eventually Fifi passed away two years later. So one by one we lost our little family of cats.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: I saw a great pal yesterday for a drink at the Century club and both of us had flagged up the fact that we each only had an hour to spare. Now some people might think it's not worth getting together with a pal for an hour - but that's exactly the sort of thing that keeps me sane when some days I work a 10 hour day with barely a break - as many of you do I'm sure.
But the point of this ‘thought’ is that our ‘brief encounter’ gave me a wonderful break where we laughed and relaxed and put all work out of our minds. That's got to be a good thing! So if you have a chance for a snatched hour with someone, then go for it.
Not quite loving them yet but Band of Horses are growing on me!
Enjoy the sunshine, love, Pam X
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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