Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
Was out last night so taped Big Brother - wonder what "characters" await me! Covent Garden was like being in Paris - the rain had stopped and people spilling out on the pavement although we had a nice little table in Box Bar… just in case the drizzle returned.
So looking forward to doing an interview on Suntalk radio at 1:10 - about a topic below. And also at 2.00 on Irish radio station Spin 1038 - love a great chat about topics I know affects so many women.
Oh gaawwd we women are so awful to ourselves - seen the reports in today's paper along the lines of Not tonight dear, I'm fat reminds me of body image research I've done which found exactly what this study has: that we women are riddled with fears about our body that can destroy our sex lives. But I also found that women are riddled with fears when it comes to things like changing in front of friends, say, on a shopping trip or at the gym.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: I could give you loads of advice here that please see my article in the "powerful living" section about body image. The one thing I will say here is men do not see us the way we do. It's the rare man who's critical of his girlfriend's or wife’s body! Remember that when you're being so self-critical and worried what he's thinking. And I've also mentioned this issue in my Love it! Magazine column this week.
Also in today's press there's a piece that Relationship break-ups hit men hardest - We women might be mystified by this as so many men seem to dive straight into the arms of a new woman after a breakup.
But let's face it girls, they do this because they simply can't cope with the loneliness and isolation after a breakup. Many men don't have the friends we do to rely on to help them through the dark nights and dismal days.
So many resort to "quick fixes" in their misery (like rebound relationships) or take inappropriate action (like drown their sorrows at the pub, etc.) to make sure they're not on their own. And if they don't find a woman to 'cure' their loneliness, they end up more lonely, depressed and miserable then you'd guess.
I relationships section of my site there are a couple articles about handling a breakup if you're in the situation.
Later on I’m posting a new "your e-mail of the week" so get yours in! Hmmm, I think this week I won't make it a raunchy sex tip. Hugs, Pam X
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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