Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
Really looking forward to my Tuesday morning agony slot on Dublin Newstalk radio after 10 AM - amongst other dilemmas the producer's told me that one mother's got in touch about her three grown sons without a girlfriend, fiancé, or wife between them. Should she be worried? We'll be discussing this.
And then there’s the wife worried about her husband getting buffed-up in the gym recently – she’s asking: who he's getting buffed up for?
Seeing Gavin Henson pictured out with Michelle Mone looking as if they're trying to hide the fact they may be an 'item' makes me ask a question: When is too soon, too soon? Beware the rebound relationship! Talk about whirlwind dating – his split from Charlotte Church was nano-seconds ago. I should write something about the rebound relationships one day soon - I meet tons of people who have been hurt by them.
More celebrities have got me thinking: beware the man who chooses clones!
Seeing John Cleese pictured with his younger blonde girlfriend and reading of the breakup between Kelly Brook and Danny Cipriani made me think of men who go for 'clones' when they break up with someone.
You see, John Cleese has had a series of tall, slim, blonde wives and girlfriends (often American), and since their recent breakup, Danny has been seen with two brunettes who are spitting images of Kelly. Of course Rod Stewart was the 'King of clones' with his string of tall, athletic blonde girlfriends.
This might be seen as harmless (and fine for the men) involved but in reality it's very difficult for the women (and vice versa when it's a woman who always goes out with the same type of man). Not only do you ultimately feel that you are some sort of 'cookie cutter' girlfriend physically, but emotionally it can eat away at you as you begin to believe that your partner wants you to behave in a certain way also.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: Take someone I'll call ‘Joanne’, 38, who realised she was ‘Richard's’ third petite brunette once she got to know his social circle. Many remarked (rather tactlessly) how much she was physically like 'Debs and Rebecca before her'. One joked whether she'd also be as 'fiery' as they were.
Joanne started to feel that Richard simply went for one type and sought out women of a particular physical and personality type rather than being drawn to her for her unique qualities. This began to eat away at her and their relationship.
So if you fear you're one in a long line of your partner's "clones" - make sure they don't treat you like their exes - instead they should treat you as an individual you are!
Take care, Pam X
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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