Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
HAVE JUST POSTED TWO NEW "your e-mails a week" one about a nightmare threesome and one about a woman falling in love with her gay pal.
Two political-types in the press today - one should hang his head in shame for an absolutely tragic, illegal war (Tony Blair) and one is shamefully being pursued by unfounded, Internet rumours (William Hague). There's been so much written about both of them that I won't put my two pence in...my few words say it all.
If you find flirting difficult then please listen in at 10:40 AM today when I'm giving an interview to BBC radio Cumbria about flirting - and making it fun! I've spoken to the morning presenter Liz Rhodes many times before and she's always up for a lively chat. I'll definitely give out some "usable" tips.
In a number of my books I talk about flirting - why we do it, how we do it - I always think there's a place for flirting in sex guides. Because flirting might lead to foreplay and foreplay leads to you-know-where. You'd think it'd come naturally to us but it doesn't for so many people.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: I've spoken to thousands of people about things like this on radio shows, TV and face-to-face, and 90% of the time it's anxiety that if you flirt with someone, you'll be rejected, and so you don't even try.
People constantly tell me they’ll come across someone they find attractive at, e.g., a work ‘do’ but they allow anxiety stop them from doing anything. Because inside they’re a mass of quivering, jelly-like nerves. So if anything they give off an anxious, negative vibe rather than a nice flirty one.
I always say go for it! What's the harm if someone doesn't flirt back with you? So what, move on. Always better to take a chance and never take one at all. There is an ancient Chinese saying I live by and it goes like this: better the person who takes one step forward than the person who stands still.
Think about it!
Last night the hubby pulled out the stops for our anniversary dinner and we ended up at the Ivy Club - what a treat! Stuck with a ‘fish theme’ and had gorgeous tiger prawns to start, followed by sea bass pan-fried on artichokes.
I'm away from tonight for 8-9 days so will definitely post a new "your e-mail of the week" later today. As you know I have no one running my site except for me! And I may not have easy access to logging on and updating daily.
It's Friday - enjoy it, Pamx LATER ON - LEAVING NOW - BACK IN 8-9 DAYS - HAVE A FAB WEEK!
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
Discover the relationship between your dreams and your sex- and love-life! Go on a journey of self-discovery in this unique dream book. Case studies, a dream directory, and ‘dreamersises’ help you interpret your dreams.
My research found if a couple's been together more than one year it's unlikely you've tried any new sex tip, trick or technique for at least four months! Rescue's at hand with my 250 hottest sex tips for every aspect of your sex life.
No couple or single can be without this unique, best-selling book containing a vast range of techniques, tricks and tips to turn your lover on. From attracting someone new to recharging your old relationship, Fabulous, explores each of the sexual senses in turn!
No. 1 selling book offering you tons of fantastic sex tips PLUS a new and revolutionary ways of looking at sexual pleasure and ‘problems‘ and how they fit into a person's whole life and relationships.
No. 1 selling sex book covering everything from how your body works to infinite sex tips. The Daily Star said: 'Sinful Sex has something for everyone'
A unique parenting book giving you creative techniques to understand your child better through their dreams and nightmares. These reveal so much about a child that most parents miss out on. Strengthen your parent-child relationship, their confidence and well-being!