Beware of The Bully Lurking in Your Office
On my weekly iVillage.co.uk blog today I'm going to tackle a woman's dilemma - she feels very unloved and they haven't had much sex since their child arrived - all in all she's downhearted. Take a look at my advice if that's your situation.
Let Gamu stay! if you're an X Factor fan you'll know what I mean.
Now, on a very serious note, what WAS Virginia Ironside thinking when she unleashed her comments Sunday morning on a TV programme? If you haven't seen anything of the furore she caused, well I could hardly believe what I read - and I've always had the greatest respect for her as an agony aunt.
In brief she remarked how a "good mother" might take a pillow and smother a chronically, seriously ill and/or disabled child. Such remarks are hurtful, harmful, thoughtless and downright dangerous.
I have to question what she was thinking when she made them. Any mother who's had a chronically ill or disabled (or both) child fights a constant battle to protect and nurture her child.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: What such a mother should do, if the care for her child is getting too much, is to ask, ask, and ask again for whatever help is available.
I know only a fraction of what some mothers - who have severely disabled or ill children - go through having had one child who was chronically ill, and in and out of hospital from age 18 months to 18 years.
I know the horror of what it's like when your child almost dies - but thankfully my child's condition meant that sometimes there were two or three good weeks in between the long hospitalisations that sometimes lasted 12 days. And also that a corner was finally turned in her late teens and now medication controls things.
I truly think there’s a potential danger of such remarks being taken literally because they've come from someone like Virginia - who appears to be someone who should be listened to with her for me as an agony aunt - and a desperate mother at her wits end looking after a child with tremendous needs 24/7 doesn't need to have such awful thoughts planted in her head.
On a lighter note had lovely drinks at the Century Club last night with a pal - perfect midweek evening.
I'm lovin’ Labrinth Let The Sun Shine - pop/R&B-tastic - check him out.
Happy Wednesday, Pam X
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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