So the quirky, lovely Aidan got the boot at the X Factor last night - very surprising and to be honest I think Katie should've gone - she looks so vulnerable.
Completely loved Matt’s take on Yellow Brick Road on Saturday night. Some of the notes he hits sound inhuman - incredible - make the hairs stand up on the back of my neck.
I'm rushing off to a conference but this afternoon I have a body language article going live on goodtoknow .co.uk - tracing the year Cheryl Cole's had through pictures from X Factor. Check it out if you're interested in body language analysis.
Over the weekend I chatted to a friend, who complained about another friend of hers, who's being a bit neglectful. My friend says this has never happened to her with a friendship. Yup, with a boyfriend being negelectful - but not a girlfriend.
We had an interesting discussion - bit of an eye-opener for her - but not for me because I hear these things about friendships all the time… as an agony aunt plus also from other friends who've felt let down - and I've been in this position too.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: think about your expectations for the friendship and then put yourself in the other person's shoes - are their expectations the same?
Do they expect to be in touch as much as you do? Or to share as much as you do?
Is their life going through a busy phase so they can’t be as much as a friend as before?
Before you write them off as a friend put it in perspective - ultimately if it comes down to them not wanting as serious a friendship as you do, then keep them as an acquaintance. Try deepening a different friendship instead.
But maybe the final question you ask yourself is: will they be there if you were in difficulties? If the answer is ‘yes’ they'd be there for you then they’re still a pretty good friend.
Happy Monday, Pam X