Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
Nearly got caught up in the student riots on the way back from filming for that Channel 5 programme late yesterday afternoon. I absolutely believe the students should be protesting - if tuition fees go up much more only the very rich will be able to forward Uni - plus a few very poor, very smart students who get scholarships. But I'm always against violence - and that includes violent protest. I'm certain the majority of students would be happy stopping traffic BUT would be appalled about the violence towards the police and police horses. Who do they go running to when their laptop's stolen from their student digs? The police!
Today on MSN UK my article about celebrity dilemmas - and what we can learn from them - has gone live. It's on their "sex and relationships" channel - I've given lots of advice for six big dilemmas that celebs have faced this year including Lily Allen, Leona Lewis, and Gillian McKeith.
I've just posted a new "your e-mail of the week" - check it out under the "Gold Star" on my homepage - it's from a woman who was using recreational drugs to intensify sex and it's not working any more.
After a Christmas drinks-thing (that I got to just about when it was finishing - panting, perspiring, and being the last one in - isn't a good look) it was lovely to put my feet up and watch the next instalment of ITV's The Accused - a gripping series by Jimmy McGovern - some of the scenes have filled me with dread and fear they've been portrayed so perfectly.
The episode set amongst soldiers - where Mackenzie Crook showed a surprising depth to his acting as the bullying Sgt - literally made me sick to my stomach. Good review, eh? When someone tells you they were made to feel sick!
TODAY’S THOUGHT: if you didn't see that episode then you won't know what I'm talking about. It's a dreadful story of a friend standing by while his friend is bullied to the point of suicide. Sadly it was so believable - not surprised they got complaints from the services.
But my point is if you can’t count on your friends (I'm talking apart from families) who can you count on? I recently had an e-mail from someone I'll call Anna - Anna knew her friend was struggling with problems a few months previously. Anna now felt really guilty about not having been more supportive and asked my advice on making it up.
The best thing is never to standby when a friend’s struggling. Even if you're really busy tell them you're thinking of them. But friendships can survive such things - I told Anna to be honest about her guilt and make it up to her friend.
I've decided that Big Boi’s album Sir Lucious Left Foot: The Son of Chico Dusty was the most underrated hip-hop album of the year... not that I constantly listen to hip-hop by any stretch of imagination but someone gave me this and I loved it.
Happy Friday, Pam x
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
Discover the relationship between your dreams and your sex- and love-life! Go on a journey of self-discovery in this unique dream book. Case studies, a dream directory, and ‘dreamersises’ help you interpret your dreams.
My research found if a couple's been together more than one year it's unlikely you've tried any new sex tip, trick or technique for at least four months! Rescue's at hand with my 250 hottest sex tips for every aspect of your sex life.
No couple or single can be without this unique, best-selling book containing a vast range of techniques, tricks and tips to turn your lover on. From attracting someone new to recharging your old relationship, Fabulous, explores each of the sexual senses in turn!
No. 1 selling book offering you tons of fantastic sex tips PLUS a new and revolutionary ways of looking at sexual pleasure and ‘problems‘ and how they fit into a person's whole life and relationships.
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A unique parenting book giving you creative techniques to understand your child better through their dreams and nightmares. These reveal so much about a child that most parents miss out on. Strengthen your parent-child relationship, their confidence and well-being!