Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
Having trouble sleeping? I've given one of my favourite sleep tips in today's Express newspaper - definitely don't let the sun go down on your anger otherwise you're guaranteed to toss and turn. So if you've had a row with your other half - even if you can’t solve the situation that evening - tell each other you love each other and will make time the next day to work things through.
Believe me, whenever the hubby and I have a disagreement in the evening we tend to gently tease each other - probably about the silliness of the disagreement - break the tension and never go to bed angry.
Have some hot and steamy sex tips in today's Daily Star newspaper - guaranteed to heat up the cold Christmas that’s on its way.
Over at the Apprentice - finally Lord Sugar saw through Stuart Baggs's grandiose claims about himself. How come it took him so long?? I'm cheering Stella on - about six weeks ago I pointed out in the Express newspaper how Lord Sugar had an obvious soft spot for her - based on his body language and facial expressions around her...hmm, maybe there was something in my analysis.
The gorgeous Gwyneth Paltrow does it again - don't see her for months on end and then she comes back looking like a sex siren - did you see the pix of her today? Slinky white evening gowns led up to her armpits. Last time around she 'came back' in 8 inch black heels with a 4 inch long miniskirt on.
Surprise, surprise so Hugh Grant’s comforting Liz Hurley - she's in turmoil as her marriage breaks up and she starts a red-hot affair with Shane Warne... Why don't those two just get back together again?
TODAY’S THOUGHT: the problem is he’s become her emotional comfort blanket - once you become a ‘comfort buddy’ it's hard to go back to the role of boyfriend.
There's nothing wrong with that - in fact doesn't everyone need a comfort buddy in their life who they can turn to in times of trouble? Definitely - and that's a good thing as long as you don't only go to them when you're in trouble - they should share your happy times too.
Another thing - somehow Liz and Hugh have managed over a decade of friendship after he broke her heart in the mid-90s. A lot of women would’ve just moved on from a love rat - but she forgave him and the rest is history. Having come across couples like that in my work I often find they’re actually two peas in a pod - with personalities so similar they work well as friends - often much better than as lovers.
Finding Arcade Fire’s The Suburbs a strangely perfect antidote to pre-Christmas stress... and I always have to remind myself that they’re Canadian not American. Maybe there are more similarities between the two countries than we believe. Highly recommend!
Just posted a new "your e-mail of the week" from Susie who wants to have phone sex with her boyfriend while their apart over Christmas and New Year's. Click on the Gold Star on my homepage to read it. And thanks to Tom for your nice comment about my article in yesterday's Express - yup, it's very hard to get books published!
Take care and keep relaxed in the face of the barrage of Christmas pressure, Pam X
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
Discover the relationship between your dreams and your sex- and love-life! Go on a journey of self-discovery in this unique dream book. Case studies, a dream directory, and ‘dreamersises’ help you interpret your dreams.
My research found if a couple's been together more than one year it's unlikely you've tried any new sex tip, trick or technique for at least four months! Rescue's at hand with my 250 hottest sex tips for every aspect of your sex life.
No couple or single can be without this unique, best-selling book containing a vast range of techniques, tricks and tips to turn your lover on. From attracting someone new to recharging your old relationship, Fabulous, explores each of the sexual senses in turn!
No. 1 selling book offering you tons of fantastic sex tips PLUS a new and revolutionary ways of looking at sexual pleasure and ‘problems‘ and how they fit into a person's whole life and relationships.
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A unique parenting book giving you creative techniques to understand your child better through their dreams and nightmares. These reveal so much about a child that most parents miss out on. Strengthen your parent-child relationship, their confidence and well-being!