Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
I hope you're not feeling despondent that you're back to work for today. Try and focus on the best part of your job and if you’re unhappy at work start looking at evening classes in an area you're interested in... no excuses, believe in yourself to find something you're really interested in.
Had a fab chat with Sue on BBC radio Cambridge last night - we talked about loads of issues that stop us being happy and even touched on Internet dating. As long as you don't believe everything people say about themselves on their dating profiles, and you take good personal safety measures when meeting up with someone, you've got a good chance of success.
Three of my best friends found true love on the Internet - and loads of people who get in touch with me have told me all sorts of "happy ending" stories.
Glad to see that Paul McKenna is talking about "make happiness a habit" in one of the papers today - it confirms my research into happiness for my book How to be a Happy Human (on my homepage) and what I've been saying for years that people should get the "happy habit" - and it's nice that others have come to that conclusion.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: How do you make happiness a habit? A couple tips include if you wake up with someone by your side (because you're part of a couple and not because you've picked up some random stranger for a one night stand!) give them a little squeeze, ask them how they slept, and be thankful for your love.
As you get ready for work don't be daunted but instead get strength from thinking about three good things you have in your life. Then walk out the door with a smile on your face, a positive thought that something good will happen to you today and willingness to show kindness to others.
As one celeb leaves rehab - Lindsay Lohan - and another one enters - David Arquette - I wish them, and anyone struggling with such issues, all the best in the world. It takes courage to recognise you need help. I hope you have someone supporting you all the way - and make Eminem's tune Not Afraid your anthem.
Finally watched Inception - you have to pay attention as there are dreams within dreams going on - with all the confusion dreams contain. I thought it was an exceptional concept brought down by one 'level' of dreams where James Bond style gunman ski around a snowy ski resort shooting each other - no finesse or imagination.
The problem is the film kept dipping in and out of the different dream levels so we kept seeing these James Bond type images.
Inception was also marred by the fact you have no emotional investment in the 'target' of the 'idea inception' - the son of a dying business mogul (played by the late Pete Postlethwaite) - I just didn't care about the son's 'story'.
Listening to the JLS album that someone gave me for Christmas - I love the boys and they have some great tunes but some are sadly run of the mill.
Get out there and have a great day, Pam X
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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