Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
Just posted a new "your e-mail of the week" - from 'Jane' - sadly trying to conceive a baby with her partner has damaged things between them. Click on the "Gold Star" on my homepage to see my advice or e-mail me. I really really wish I could answer every e-mail - sadly I work very long hours and run the site myself so simply can't.
Fascinating to watch the national sexism row erupt - my feeling is that men and women are equally sexist about each other. Hands up my girlfriends and I often talk/joke in derisory ways about men...but equally we all love men and most of us have partner.
Problem is you can't make a one-size rule that fits-all because it's all about who is saying what... if it's some grizzled old misogynistic man ridiculing women - no one likes it. But if it's a man who actually likes women, and is making a bit of a joke, no one seems to mind.
And vice versa when it comes to women ridiculing men. Let's not lose our sense of humour in all of this - I'm the first one to laugh at blonde jokes... there's enough problems in the world without looking to create others and getting po-faced about every little joke or comment.
Did you see that Come Dine With Me series last week featuring the rude Marcello? Yep, he was so rude I would've booted him out of my dinner party - and I feel his fellow diners were incredibly patient - but the threats he's getting are frightening. I think the comments from his fellow diners that he would've seen last week were enough punishment - they were pretty darn clear about their feelings when speaking to camera.
V happy As the Manic Street Preaches special gig with Absolute radio is back on next week - it was cancelled a couple months ago due to illness in the band - loved their album came out last year.
Some of the gowns worn at last night's National Television Awards pictured in today's papers were fabulous - Holly Willoughby looked amazing in her elegant black dress and I loved the style of Myleene Klass’s Grecian-look gown... but sack the stylist - that canary yellow was awful. Then again you could put a sack on Myleene and she’d look fabulous.
Also loving Cheryl Cole’s sexy black dress that revealed her ‘tramp stamps’.
It was great to meet up with one of my best guy-pals at the Century Club last night and to meet one of his friends - love meeting new people - even when it's someone who lives in another country (she lives in Paris) and you may not ever see them again.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: I used to always make the effort when there was someone new at work to grab them for a coffee because I'll never forget one hospital I worked at where it was all of three months before someone made an effort. A disheartening time to say the least!
It's awful being the 'newby' when others are too busy or disinterested to make you feel welcome. So if there's someone new where you work make a point of saying hello today – they’ll appreciate it!
Take care, Pam x
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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