Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
As the world holds its breath let’s hope there won't be any further radiation arising out of the Japanese nuclear facilities. If one nationality can pull together to overcome such horrendous devastation I would imagine it's the Japanese who seem to have determination and fortitude in huge measure.
Have started reading Witness the Night by Kishwar Desai that won the Costa first novel award last year and have decided with all the horrors in the news (Japan, Libya) to put it aside for a time...there's a rather gruesome mass murder at the start. Definitely need some light reading so will be shopping for my Kindle this evening.
Amanda Holden looked so brave as she appeared in public six weeks after her losing her baby though there was a sadness in her eyes that said it all. Don't think I could've done it. She said that friends and family have been the best tonic - couldn't agree more and I'm always banging on about keeping your loved ones close. Not only for the bad times but the good ones too!
Watched Blue Valentine starring Ryan Gosling (Scarlett Johansson's ex) along with Michelle Williams as a couple whose marriage is unravelling. Liked the way it cut between the happy times when they first met with the awful times later on. Only watch it if you're prepared for a depressing movie.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: One thing it didn't make clear was what the turning point in their relationship was. Why did it go from bad to worse? Often couples find they can’t put their finger on it - although they can often put their finger on the exact moment they decide they no longer want to try... their partner does one thing that hurts or angers them beyond repair.
But surely are turning points before such moments. If only a couple could identify those before it gets too serious. Then they could try to mend what's going wrong before it's too late.
Here's hoping that any eye-opening moments you have in your relationship makes you grab your partner and tell them things have to change.
I hate to solicit ideas for "your e-mail of the week" when most people want to e-mail dilemmas but can someone please recommend a really good pillow? The pillow I've loved for about seven years has proved irreplaceable... John Lewis doesn't stock them anymore. I've already bought about three replacements and nothing is as comfortable. It was hypoallergenic with funny shaped bits inside that seemed to form a snuggly shape around your head... pure comfort!
Happy Monday, Pam X
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
Discover the relationship between your dreams and your sex- and love-life! Go on a journey of self-discovery in this unique dream book. Case studies, a dream directory, and ‘dreamersises’ help you interpret your dreams.
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