Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
My weekly iVillage.co.uk blog’s gone live today and tackles the difficult and sensitive issue of when one partner wants a baby and the other partner doesn't. Many hurdles couples face are tricky - sexual differences, money issues, families that interfere, etc. - but few cause as much heartache as this rather black-and-white issue - because either you have a child together or you don't.
The beauty of compromise is lost when it comes to having children.
If you're struggling with this check out my blog and remember the key thing is to explore why the person who doesn't want children, doesn't want them. It might be an insecurity or an unspoken fear and if they can get past that then actually a might choose to become a parent.
Over at Eastenders and the awful baby swap story - I'm sorry, if Ronnie pulls one more of her gloomy faces I'll throw something at the TV. Samantha Janus is a very good actress but she doesn't have a very large ‘gloomy repertoire’. And as for then having Kat reject baby Tommy at first - just doesn't wash - if I'd written that episode she would’ve been fighting to get into the room where they were checking out his well-being. She would've been like a tigress fighting to see him.
Hasn't Nigella Lawson heard of factor 50 sunblock? How uncomfortable and awkward she looked pictured on Bondi Beach in a ‘Burkini’. Yes, I've wised-up about the sun and don't expose myself to excessive rays - but a good sun factor will do the trick. You don't need to be weighed down by metres clothing...unless she's simply trying to cover her figure. In which case she's a rather silly woman because she has a multitude of male fans who love her curves - including most of the men I know. So don't cover the curves Nigella!
TODAY’S THOUGHT: but that's what a negative body image can do to a person - make them cover-up completely or try weird and wonderful ways to deflect attention from their bodies. If that's you then try focusing for 15 minutes today on your personality!
Shutout thoughts about your size and shape anything about the last nice thing you did for a friend was the last time someone told you that you were lovely. Start believing it and stop wasting your time worrying about your shape. Be healthy but don't be obsessed!
The sun’s shining again, we're so lucky, and it looks like it's going to shine right through the royal wedding. Take care, Pam x
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
Discover the relationship between your dreams and your sex- and love-life! Go on a journey of self-discovery in this unique dream book. Case studies, a dream directory, and ‘dreamersises’ help you interpret your dreams.
My research found if a couple's been together more than one year it's unlikely you've tried any new sex tip, trick or technique for at least four months! Rescue's at hand with my 250 hottest sex tips for every aspect of your sex life.
No couple or single can be without this unique, best-selling book containing a vast range of techniques, tricks and tips to turn your lover on. From attracting someone new to recharging your old relationship, Fabulous, explores each of the sexual senses in turn!
No. 1 selling book offering you tons of fantastic sex tips PLUS a new and revolutionary ways of looking at sexual pleasure and ‘problems‘ and how they fit into a person's whole life and relationships.
No. 1 selling sex book covering everything from how your body works to infinite sex tips. The Daily Star said: 'Sinful Sex has something for everyone'
A unique parenting book giving you creative techniques to understand your child better through their dreams and nightmares. These reveal so much about a child that most parents miss out on. Strengthen your parent-child relationship, their confidence and well-being!