Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
So the worst kept secret in town's out and Imogen Thomas’s famous footballer lover revealed - I'm completely confused whether or not I can actually name him or not - but we all know who he is now... talk about heaping more misery on his wife's heart break. This talented player - but stupid man (crikey Imogen is the spitting image of his wife!) - should never have had the affair. Having done so he should’ve confessed in private to his wife. I wish her and their children the very best.
On to something that actually matters - Obama's in town and I hope he'll spread a little magic the way he did in Ireland. Fingers crossed he and Cameron can come up with at least the beginnings of solutions for Afghanistan and Libya.
Later today my weekly iVillage.co.uk blog will go live - this week it's about one woman's dilemma over her boyfriend who's threatening one of the worst things a partner can threaten - that he might ‘do something’ to himself if she breaks up with him.
Talk about the levels people will stoop to so they can manipulate a partner to stay - this is a horrible thing to threaten anyone. Yes, someone must be quite desperate to do so but that's never the way to keep someone.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: if someone is trying to emotionally blackmail you definitely enlist a neutral third party to help. Don't keep this threat between the two of you - otherwise it's an enormous burden on your shoulders. Keep levelheaded and keep talking to the partner that's threatening to harm themselves.
Tell them you'll go to the GP with them so they can find out about counselling and perhaps medication for the immediate time that they're feeling so desperate.
Then you must set your boundaries - you can’t be tied to someone because of blackmail. I'm sending you loads of strength if you're going through this now.
Woot - going to The Wizard of Oz - the Musical tonight – can’t wait - what a treat! Haven't been to the musical since I saw The Jersey Boys six months ago... I would never sing along, though, wouldn't want to upset anyone with my tone-deaf style singing voice.
Take care, Pamx
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
Discover the relationship between your dreams and your sex- and love-life! Go on a journey of self-discovery in this unique dream book. Case studies, a dream directory, and ‘dreamersises’ help you interpret your dreams.
My research found if a couple's been together more than one year it's unlikely you've tried any new sex tip, trick or technique for at least four months! Rescue's at hand with my 250 hottest sex tips for every aspect of your sex life.
No couple or single can be without this unique, best-selling book containing a vast range of techniques, tricks and tips to turn your lover on. From attracting someone new to recharging your old relationship, Fabulous, explores each of the sexual senses in turn!
No. 1 selling book offering you tons of fantastic sex tips PLUS a new and revolutionary ways of looking at sexual pleasure and ‘problems‘ and how they fit into a person's whole life and relationships.
No. 1 selling sex book covering everything from how your body works to infinite sex tips. The Daily Star said: 'Sinful Sex has something for everyone'
A unique parenting book giving you creative techniques to understand your child better through their dreams and nightmares. These reveal so much about a child that most parents miss out on. Strengthen your parent-child relationship, their confidence and well-being!