Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
Went to a Christmas party last night that was far too crowded. Sometimes I think people invite every single person they know - and then don't get to talk to any of them - I'm not being a party pooper - honestly! But unless there’s dancing (which there wasn't) I hate all that elbowing through crowds. Still it was enough fun not to go on to the Century Club’s party - so freezing outside that the idea of waiting for a cab between venues put us right off leaving.
Delighted to see that John Irving has a new book out - Last Night in Twisted River - just ordered it for any quiet moments over Christmas. I'm wondering what dark corner of the human psyche he might explore in this one? It's great to cuddle up for some reading in between the mountain of DVDs we'll watch between Christmas and New Year's.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: a friend of mine has overspent on his credit cards leaving him a bit panicked right now - I've told him to give me the credit cards for safekeeping until after new years. Honestly (I'm being very honest today) I'm not going to do anything with them but keep them safe. Definitely enlist a trusted friend as the crisis buddy for anything like this. They can be your safety valve if you fear you going to overspend, over drink, over eat - or "over" anything!
Had a quick laser treatment for the broken veins on my cheeks (I've had them from a young age -- nothing to do with drinks!) leaving me a bit red and blotchy (kind of think it defeats the purpose but in the long run it doesn't) but that'll settle before I head out to dinner tonight and then to catch some fringe theatre in Camden later.
Doing an interview this afternoon on BBC Sussex and BBC Surrey radio about meddling mothers - on the lovely Alison Fern’s afternoon show. This is going to be a real problem over Christmas as grown-up children arrive home to spend some time - and the mums (and some of the dads) start treating them as if they’re still in short trousers. Some parents never learn - got to admit I have to watch that myself!
If you're looking for little gifts I found the sweetest little boxes of ‘friendship’ and ‘happiness’ teas (organically grown and with really interesting blends) in the crowded monstrosity of the John Lewis gift area. I also found fabulous jewelled (fake jewels!) wine stoppers and paperweights at Present Solutions on St John's Hill. I love it when pals give me tiny little gifts like that. Hope they love receiving them!
Lots of love, Pam x
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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