Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
Red alert - check out the ladies in red- in today's Sun newspaper I've written an article about celebrity women pictured in shades of scarlet to signal a big new phase in their life - usually that they’re moving on after a breakup. Check it out if you like gorgeous red frocks!
Summer tune alert: Loving Jai Paul‘s BTSTU– reminds me of a James Blake/Jamie Woon hybrid/fusion!
Okay, many people are wrapped up in themselves but there's a limit - and that limit was reached in the e-mail I answered for my weekly iVillage. co.uk blog that goes live today.
A woman I'll call ‘Chloe’ got in touch because in her relationship it's all about him - his footie team loses? He needs support! Chloe has a major problem at work? He brushes aside any conversation of it. Basically he's emotionally greedy - it's selfish love - very one-sided - but sadly all too common.
If your relationship is a one-way street like hers then check out my blog for advice.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: staying with that thought, though, one psychological technique you can use on a partner that demands your attention (yet gives you none) is the "blank wall" technique.
Step 1: When they say something to you about them having an issue/problem/dilemma literally blank what they say, and change the conversation to something entirely different.
Step 2: When they say, "Hey, you, I was talking about my issue with my bad back, boss, bank account, whatever," say something very noncommittal like, "Oh yes, but as I was saying," - and change back to the entirely different conversation.
Step 3: Of course the selfish partner will then demand to know what's going on and that gives you the opportunity to spell out that you don't like to be blanked when you want to discuss a problem.
Oops, the gorgeous and talented Myleene Klass has fallen for one of those photographer's lines, "Oh, but you'll look so sexy in this pose"...a photographer's obviously convinced her that to lie back with her legs open will look erotic (in today's Mirror newspaper) - sadly it looks more like soft porn. She'd look gorgeous perched on a chair in a little black dress so why has she fallen for this stunt?
Last night was a beautiful, sunny evening, perfect for drinks with a friend in Soho... off to work now, have a great day, Pamx
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
Discover the relationship between your dreams and your sex- and love-life! Go on a journey of self-discovery in this unique dream book. Case studies, a dream directory, and ‘dreamersises’ help you interpret your dreams.
My research found if a couple's been together more than one year it's unlikely you've tried any new sex tip, trick or technique for at least four months! Rescue's at hand with my 250 hottest sex tips for every aspect of your sex life.
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No. 1 selling book offering you tons of fantastic sex tips PLUS a new and revolutionary ways of looking at sexual pleasure and ‘problems‘ and how they fit into a person's whole life and relationships.
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A unique parenting book giving you creative techniques to understand your child better through their dreams and nightmares. These reveal so much about a child that most parents miss out on. Strengthen your parent-child relationship, their confidence and well-being!