Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
Hello there, landed at Heathrow this afternoon - back from an amazing two and half weeks - mainly hiking in California and Nevada - OMG my legs are still killing me!
Stateside recommendations to come in a moment but first my weekly blog on iVillage.co.uk went live today and it's a dilemma I get tons of e-mails about:
when a man blows hot and cold when you're trying to begin a relationship with him - and sometimes over a number of months. This is a horrible situation to be put in because one minute he's loving and fun to be with - the next he disappears or can't be bothered.
It's our girls' nature to see the good in most people which is why these guys get away with it. A woman hangs on to her good memories of happy times with him and filters out the times he can't be bothered. If you're in this situation do check it out for advice.
TODAY’S TIP: if he acts like he doesn't care, talks like he doesn't care, walks like he doesn't care... then he probably doesn't care!
Stop fooling yourself if you're going through this. Think about what you'd tell your best friend if her boyfriend was treating her this way - you'd tell her to dump him!
If you're into hiking in the great outdoors in here are some of the highlights of my California trip - if you can make it over there definitely check out:
The Pinnacles, southern Monterey County - the nearest thing you can get to walking through the scenes from the film 127 Hours depicting how climber/hiker Aron Ralston had to hack off his arm after being trapped in a narrow canyon.
Great for moderate hiking.
At Yosemite - the Vernal Falls hike - then up to Nevada Falls - breathtaking scenery but three people lost their lives at these particular falls in July - so no messing about and slipping on the rocks!
Also at Yosemite - the Yosemite Upper Falls hike - very strenuous but worth it - at the top there's a view that's not for the faint-hearted.
Mariposa Sequoia Grove hike - border of Mariposa and Yosemite Counties - a perfect wind-down hike when you have aching legs. Have a beautiful stroll amongst the huge trees.
Lake Tahoe - Cascades Falls - yet more fantastic scenery and moderately strenuous.
So much has happened in the last couple weeks - I hope you've had a good fortnight and I look forward to reading your e-mails. We had the 10th anniversary of 9/11 - some phenomenal stories of courage were broadcast Stateside - they made me so tearful - and so thankful that we got past that date without another tragedy.
Missed my friends and my cats sooooo much - not necessarily in that order! J
Missed out on a lot of work including being invited to contribute a couple times to This Morning telly - sorry to miss that as they have such a great team over there.
Heading for an early bedtime...eek, can't face any jet lag! Pam x
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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