Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
Have you got a BWBF? I've written about this type of friend in today's Express newspaper.
We all know what ‘fair weather friends’ are [only around in your good times] but these are ‘bad weather best friends’ - they only get in touch with you when they're in trouble.
You won't see them for dust if anything good's happening to them - but in their bad times you're always their lifeline, their shoulder to cry on, their saviour. Take a look at my article if you have a friend like this and maybe it's draining you.
Funny enough have been writing a lot about friendships recently [I pointed out my ‘toxic friend’ article on MSN the other day]. But friendships are so important for our well-being which is why you need to cherish our great friends, and improve the friendships that aren't working but are worth saving.
And as for the damaging ones? You may just have to leave them behind.
Kitty on the X Factor might drive me nuts! She's a pretty young woman with a great voice so why doesn't she just let those qualities shine through? Underneath all the attention-seeking behaviour maybe a true singer lurks.
She didn't need to wear a stripper-like outfit last night - I wouldn't be happy with young children watching such sexualized moves & outfits. It's one thing to dress super-sexy - but not on a family show.
I swear I have one of the smartest cats in the world - my Tinkerbell Betty Boo - I know, rather a silly name but she's far from silly. [btw, doesn't one of Jonathan Ross's daughters have that same name??] Well, back to how smart she is - she saw me get down my overnight case last night and immediately was fussing around my feet thinking I was soon-to-be off leaving her behind.
Actually I'm lending it to a girlfriend today who needs an overnight bag for conference... so this is definitely going to confuse Tinker - the case is out but mummy isn't leaving!
TODAY’S TIP: never underestimate the intelligence of your cat or dog - I've had many of both and not only do they become aware of things like suitcases meaning you're going away, but they definitely sense your mood.
Research shows that if you're having a troubled day simply stroking your pet can sooth you. The research didn't say this but I'm convinced it's because you then produce the emotional-well-being hormone oxytocin from the stroking action.
With that whizzing around your system you can't help but feel better!
If you can't have a pet then auto-massage has been shown to increase oxytocin... This involves stroking your own arms are reaching around and stroking your shoulders. Do this repetitive action for five or 10 minutes and it'll calm you down.
Happy Monday, Pam x
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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