Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
Have you tried to turn a friendship into a romance?
Probably the better question is -
who hasn't tried at some point to turn a friendship into a romance?? It's cropped up in my weekly iVillage.co.uk blog.
This couple started as friends and have now got to the point of going to bed together but it is very awkward indeed! Check it out if you're in this situation - it goes live later today.
These things are always complicated by feeling awkward about discussing them. Reminds me of Ben in EastEnders who won't tell his father feel about being gay... It's only led to disaster after disaster. Honesty is almost always the best policy.
TODAY’S TIP: which brings me back to the ‘falling for a friend’ situation - the worst thing you risk by being honest by your feelings is that they're a little bit uncomfortable at first.
But usually people are flattered when they find out a friend harbours desire for them.
And of course the best result is finding out they feel the same way about you.
The tip is how you start the conversation - don't make it a big, heavy, overwhelming conversation! Keep it chilled, be confident, and give them that feeling that whatever they say is okay.
So whether they say they feel the same way, or don't feel the same way and want to stay as friends, it's going to be okay with you.
Good luck, nothing ventured nothing gained!
Managed to grab a lovely lunch friends on the roof terrace the Century club yesterday - complete bliss with the sunshine! Where's it gone today? Pam x
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
Discover the relationship between your dreams and your sex- and love-life! Go on a journey of self-discovery in this unique dream book. Case studies, a dream directory, and ‘dreamersises’ help you interpret your dreams.
My research found if a couple's been together more than one year it's unlikely you've tried any new sex tip, trick or technique for at least four months! Rescue's at hand with my 250 hottest sex tips for every aspect of your sex life.
No couple or single can be without this unique, best-selling book containing a vast range of techniques, tricks and tips to turn your lover on. From attracting someone new to recharging your old relationship, Fabulous, explores each of the sexual senses in turn!
No. 1 selling book offering you tons of fantastic sex tips PLUS a new and revolutionary ways of looking at sexual pleasure and ‘problems‘ and how they fit into a person's whole life and relationships.
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