Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
Victoria Beckham's self control is frightening - pictured out with fourth child daughter Harper, she hasn't put on an ounce! I hope women won't feel she's a role model to strive for!
Downton Abbey got completely ridiculous - a complete soap opera - last night with Matthew flying out of his wheelchair at the speed of lightning in his previously paralyzed limbs. Then Lord Grantham causing a housemaid to swoon by giving her a full on snog, Sybil run away with the the chauffeur and other twists and turns.
At X Factor the wonderful Sophie was voted out - so sad about that - when she is given the right song she had a stunning voice and just because she's not eccentric like some of the others she's been kind of passed over. Not surprised about the ratings as we can't be bothered towards the main show anymore - only the Sunday night catch up. And I'm not ashamed to admit that I've been in die hard X Factor fan over the years.
I'm the only person who seemed to like Alexander Burke [maybe Kelly should get back here!]. I quite liked the randomness of her comments and despite stepping into the telly equivalent of a war zone she came out confidently. She desperately wanted to make a difference.
As one boy band member proves he can leave The Risk and be immediately replaced by another - sadly it reflects how interchangeable these guys are.
It's horrible to hear that Jesy - one member of the girl band Little Mix - has been the victim of Internet bullying. Where does all this anger and hatred come from? Why do people want to actively hurt rather than give criticism that's constructive or justified and not directed at someone's looks. Don't like someone's voice? Fair enough. But when you stray onto things like someone's weight/looks it just seems cruel.
Other big news was controversial Kitty managed to keep her backside in her hot pants! And when not distracted by her impossibly short bikini bottoms on a family show you actually notice how great her voice is.
TODAY’S TIP: If you're being bullied like Jesy from the X Factor please don't suffer in silence. You don't have to take it, you can get help, it may take time, but it's worth sticking up for yourself.
Yes, we all have to the occasional bad remark but bullying's more than one bad remark.
If you're young you may feel it's easier to confide in a teacher, if you're being bullied at work and my first confide in friends and then go to HR. But sadly if you let it go on - it goes on.
I'm sending strength to everyone being bullied out there - it's happened to a family member of mine so I know how horrid it is.
Focus today on your own inner strengths and qualities and how sad and insecure the bullies are even if they appear to be strong - they're not - they're weak!
Horrified at the thought of caesareans on demand for women without medical issues - of course labour isn't a walk in the park - I know from having my children. But think of the cost - and all the truly ill people waiting for necessary cancer ops, hip replacements, etc., that'll have to wait longer when selfish women demand costly caesareans.
It's Halloween and I'm prepared with loads more treats for children that come by tonight - some came last night - missed out on a party last night a friend was having outside of London. Wanted to go but with an early start this morning thought I needed to give it a miss... well, that's my excuse... hadn't actually sorted out a costume!
Happy Monday, Pam x
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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