Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
Got a problem with shyness? It troubles so many peeps and in serious cases can completely destroy your social life. I tackle this in my weekly IVillage UK blog that goes live today - it's from a woman who's so shy she never gets past the first date with a guy. She's desperate for love.
It was completely fab seeing some of the pre-recording of the Strictly Come Dancing Christmas special last night. Dashed to the BBC straight from meetings so watched from the green room - didn't want to sit in the audience as I wasn't glammed-up - and guests were very glam. It's well worth watching on Christmas - loved Su Pollard, Charlie Brooks and Debra Stephenson....well, all of them really.
V excited as filming a TV pilot soon as a relationship expert - will keep you posted - it will be a fun show if it goes to series.
TODAY’S TIP: Back to shyness - the starting point to tackling it is to force yourself to take small steps to getting used to speaking to people. Start with your local shopkeeper - and make a little small talk.
Make your daily goal to speak to someone - shopkeepers, newsagents, tube staff - keep it simple and ask straightforward questions.
This will help build your confidence to just chat to others.
The next tip is to have ready three topics to talk about when, e.g., you randomly get stuck in a queue in the cafeteria at work with a colleague. Think about what you could say about watching the X Factor, a recent book you read, something in the news, etc.
Being prepared to talk makes it so much easier. Lots more tips in the iVillage article. Go on, get out there and start shining as a person that has left their shyness behind.
Take care, Pam x
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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