Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
From the important - huge good health vibes to Nelson Mandela who is in hospital - a true inspiration to many generations at 93...
to the trivial [but that's life] - broke in my new high heels from Dune at a friend's birthday drinks last night. They need to come with a warning: don't cross your ankles because they have buckles down the side - laddered tights just trampy!
On to men and women - so who thought that little thing called the battle of the sexes was finished? It's 2012 and you'd think we'd know better but we're still pretty darn confused about relationships.
And we make those massive and often dodgy assumptions about each other - like men are commitment shy and women are desperate to pin someone down... so not true...well true in some cases!
Yesterday I commented in the Huffington Post UK website about a large survey finding a third of men would marry even if they were really in love but things were pretty good I guess.
You know these results didn't really surprise me as I find many men reach what I call the "commitment threshold" more quickly than women. If they feel comfortable in a relationship then that is often the most important thing to them. Never underestimate the need for a 'comfort zone' for a man.
Many women appear to want to settle down quickly but in actual fact go through much angst about what they really want and if he is 'Mr. Right'. Whereas a man will think, "this feels good so she must be Mrs. Right."
Tune recommendation - if you want a funky laid-back but generally uplifting vibe check out Kindness ... love their style too - it's very "be yourself" Gee Up & Cyan partic faves.
TODAY’S TIP: As with all these things finding a happy middle ground satisfies most people. You can angst about every detail of her relationship and led a pretty darn good one go - or you can settle too quickly.
The key things? Pretty simple... if you treat each other well, enjoy each other's company, can share a laugh, and can face the bad times together then sounds like a fantastic starting point for true love.
Happy Saturday, Pam x
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
Discover the relationship between your dreams and your sex- and love-life! Go on a journey of self-discovery in this unique dream book. Case studies, a dream directory, and ‘dreamersises’ help you interpret your dreams.
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