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For successful fantasy sex talk here's a few basic-bedroom-etiquette tips to follow:
v Timing’s crucial. If your partner’s just confessed undying love for you and/or made some big gesture to you, that’s not the right time to tell them you have about fantasy about having rampant sex with a stranger you meet on holiday.
v If the timing feels right to share some sexy fantasy talk then begin by sounding them out. When you’re cuddling say something like, "You're so hot looking I've fantasised you're my boss and I'll do anything you ask because I've got such a crush." Taking this attack makes a fantasy sound alluring rather than threatening.
v Next you can ask if they've got any secret fantasy they'd like to share. Tell them how much you love to hear what they think about. Give them the confidence to say what they want about their fantasy life.
v Whatever your fantasy always put your partner smack in the middle of it. Unless it's something where they wouldn't play a part like you fantasising about doing a dance in a crowded lap-dancing bar. But otherwise you have to put your partner into it else you risk hurting them or turning on my off!
v As the saying goes, variety is the spice of life so make sure you explore different fantasy scenarios. If you repeatedly tell them the same scenarios, say, that you watch your partner have sex with someone else, they might start feeling threatened by this. You can see how they begin to think that you only get turned on by the idea of watching them have sex with someone.
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