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Have you ever dreamed about having sex with someone you don't actually fancy? I tackled this later today when my weekly iVillage UK Love Clinic goes live.
I've answered one woman's dilemma - she's freaked out about dreaming repeatedly of a manager she doesn't particularly like.
Our sleeping mind has a funny way of linking emotional needs with sexual needs - part of me thinks she needs more from this manager and her sleeping mind has twisted this a sexual need.
Definitely she shouldn't need to worry the way she has been that there's some significant meaning to it.
Call me paranoid but I didn't like hearing on BBC Radio 4 this morning about amateur scientists working with bio-matter - have to agree with a number of environment charities that this should be regulated. Very Frankenstein-ish!
TODAY’S TIP: Back to dreaming - if you've dreamt of having sex with someone you don't fancy [or maybe even don't like] it usually symbolises one of a few things:
1/ it's a love-hate thing so part of you is actually attracted to them [sometimes the, e.g., dominant boss we don't like we actually find attractive in a certain way]
2/ it's powerful emotions that have nothing to do with sex that just got mixed up in your dreams together with sexual imagery
3/ Maybe you actually want to control the person you don't like through sex in your dream. Or the reverse - your dream is telling you that you're being in control and it's using sexual imagery to give you this message. If you wake up feeling anxious this might well be the case.
Have a think about what could be at the heart of these dreams but there's nothing wrong with sex dreams and certainly don't worry about it if you have them!
Happy Wednesday, Pamx
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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