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If you’re taking any medication you should check with your doctor before taking an aphrodisiac preparation, many of which are available over the counter at health food shops or on the Internet. Don't get over-keen and overdose as an overdose of, e.g., Yohimbine can cause nausea and vomiting – not sexy! Don't get ripped off by Internet companies unless they’re a company you know and trust.
Almonds – Contain properties said to revive flagging desire. Traditionally a symbol of love and fertility in Mediterranean cultures almonds are baked into savouries, sweets and desserts.
Avocado - These are loaded with essential fatty acids and anti-oxidant which both help and the production of sex hormones. Their smooth and creamy texture is very sensuous. The Aztecs called the avocado tree the "tree with testicles".
Avena Sativa (green oats) – Sometimes it mixed into preparations with other aphrodisiacs, it seems to boost their effects. Research seems to support the view that it boosts libido particularly in people with low testosterone. Usually found in extract form it may be added to food and drinks.
Chocolate – Chocolate is rich in chemicals that give energy. The darker the variety the better. It contains the chemical phenyl ethylamine that stimulates the brain giving a euphoric effect and energy. It usually contains caffeine too so potentially it is ‘energy giving’ and mood enhancing. Certainly where mood is concerned Casanova’s use of chocolate ‘love tokens’ to romance potential lovers – selecting shapes that gave some sort of message to them. Something very simple like feeding your lover strawberries dipped in warm chocolate can raise temperatures.
Epimedium grandiflorum - Historically the use of this as a sexual enhancer dates back 2000 years to the Chinese. The plants are pulverised and then sold in capsule form. As with any capsules bought from health food stores you can take them as advised or mix them into cooking.
Figs - Not only do they look gorgeous and sexy but they’re full of vitamins. The ancient Greeks supposedly indulged in orgies once the fig harvest was complete.
Gingko Biloba – Taken from trees found in Japan and China this is well known to increase blood and oxygen flow. It is also said to enhance mood and have a knock on effect to lovemaking. Now very popular in the USA and it is grown there. You can buy Sage Healthy Woman and Healthy Man capsules containing this and other stimulant herbs like ginseng.
Horny goat weed - A herb that was traditionally seen as a sex remedy for men has now been marketed for women, too. Try the Energy 69 drink that contains this and other energy ingredients.
That's a brief list of A to H - don't have time to do the A to Z [but there are some classics including oysters just don't have time to get to] a couple things to remember: you could cook/serve practically anything as long as you serve it in a beautiful way with, e.g., candlelight and flirt with your partner it can become an aphrodisiac!
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