Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
Looking forward to my weekly slot on the Tom Dunne show after 11 AM. I find this radio slot so rewarding as we get such a wide range of dilemmas. The producer’s told me that today - amongst other dilemmas - we’re going to discuss a man who is depressed after losing his job and a wife who has lost a stone and a half and her personality has changed as much as her body shape.
It's a fantastic thing to look forward to something you do you in your work. I know I'm lucky in this way.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: if you're not happy at work - maybe you even hate your job - then you must start looking in the evenings or weekends at retraining, getting a new skill, or finding a new place to work where you'll be happier. We spend most of our lives at work and I’ve known people crushed by their jobs - no job is worth that.
The Brit nominations were revealed last night and it's fantastic to see a few of my favourites in the pack - Dizzee Rascal, for one, in the best album category. I remember when I was on the Brit's panel about eight years ago - good times casting my votes!
Found it ironic that Madonna has supposedly claimed in the press that motherhood is the most important job she's ever done - well it seems to me (and I'm only going on how hard she works) that her ‘job satisfaction’ takes her away for extraordinary amounts of time. I'm sorry, but isn't she always jetting around the world, on tour, appearing in something, writing children's books and on and on. She seems to have a gaggle of nannies looking after her children. And there's nothing wrong with that but this doesn't sit well with her comments considering her 24-7 lifestyle. One thing I did as a mother was make many choices to give up work opportunities - that would've furthered my career - to instead be at home when my children were back from school. Yup, that was my choice but it rubs me up the wrong way when I hear women whose jobs take them away for 18-hour-days to claim that motherhood is the greatest thing ever did.
Last night had a fab time with a couple friends out for drinks at Lo Profile and on to dinner - the hubster joined us which is rare for a Monday night because he's normally training in the sport he does. Monday is the new Friday for me! But evidently not to others as the restaurant was dead. It's really weird to have all the attention of the waiter for the whole evening.
So happy that Jeff Bridges got a Golden Globe for his performance in Crazy Heart - a stunning portrayal of a down-and-out, alcoholic country-western musician.
Have a feature to write today so I'm disappearing now. Hope you're touched by something good, funny, or loving in your day, Pam X
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
Discover the relationship between your dreams and your sex- and love-life! Go on a journey of self-discovery in this unique dream book. Case studies, a dream directory, and ‘dreamersises’ help you interpret your dreams.
My research found if a couple's been together more than one year it's unlikely you've tried any new sex tip, trick or technique for at least four months! Rescue's at hand with my 250 hottest sex tips for every aspect of your sex life.
No couple or single can be without this unique, best-selling book containing a vast range of techniques, tricks and tips to turn your lover on. From attracting someone new to recharging your old relationship, Fabulous, explores each of the sexual senses in turn!
No. 1 selling book offering you tons of fantastic sex tips PLUS a new and revolutionary ways of looking at sexual pleasure and ‘problems‘ and how they fit into a person's whole life and relationships.
No. 1 selling sex book covering everything from how your body works to infinite sex tips. The Daily Star said: 'Sinful Sex has something for everyone'
A unique parenting book giving you creative techniques to understand your child better through their dreams and nightmares. These reveal so much about a child that most parents miss out on. Strengthen your parent-child relationship, their confidence and well-being!