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There are potentially countless things that might trouble us when we fall for someone. Have you ever fallen in love with someone and know they're potentially a great partner - and yet something put you off them?
Many tell me they love being with their partner but don't think their partner fits in with their friends. Others say that they get along really well except when it comes to money [what are the three most common reasons for divorce] but how about when their great but things aren't very good in the bedroom?
I've tackled this in my Love Clinic on iVillage UK .
The thing is, we can only ask so much of one person. How can everyone be "just right" in every possible way?
It's a ridiculous thing to expect but with so much pressure from the articles we read across the media - that we have to expect it all and not settle for second best - men and women have overly high expectations.
TODAY’S TIP: overly high expectations are a real problem - no one can live up to them, but many keep looking for that person who might live up to them, and no one wins in the end!
So my top tip is when you meet someone (and a lot about them seems right) and something isn't working, why not think about how you can compromise over this? And as for my advice to the woman in my Love Clinic - there are ways to coax something like ‘better sex’ out of someone.
Obviously, never compromise on the important things like being treated well and respecting each other!
Take care, Pamx
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