It's time to recognise the "I'll be happy when..." syndrome!...
No surprises if you've been a bit down this summer as the lack of sunshine has had a real impact on people's emotional state.
I was struck by this when I saw report about people's low mood this drizzly (not dazzling) summer and also a couple life coaching clients mentioned this. I've written a little piece on this [obviously my life coaching client's name, age and occupation has been completely changed to protect anonymity] in today's Daily Express so check it out for my seven little steps to lift your mood.
Thursday has raced around again and I've just posted a new "your e-mail of the week" from ‘Daisy’. Maybe you’ll identify with her situation - she's been with her boyfriend for five years and they never talk about marriage.
She wants to know how to raise this without freaking him out.
You could wait a lifetime for some people - so at some point you have to raise the "big" conversation.
The problem is too many people over-think raising a big conversation - it becomes such a worry - when really just getting practical about it is the best way forward.
TODAY’S TIP: if you've got face someone with a big conversation like this [it may not be the same as Daisy's but something big] start boosting your confidence that you have a right to get this answer.
Every time you start thinking about the conversation challenge thoughts that you'd better not do it, it's going to go horribly wrong, they’ll get angry, etc.
Instead turn this on its head and tell yourself it's going to be good to raise it and even if there are issues from it you need to sort those out.
Keep repeating that to yourself.
Happy Thursday, Pamx
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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