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Today on my weekly IVillage.co.uk blog I discuss a woman's dilemma where her partner has a much higher sex drive. This is such a common situation - but when it's happening to you it's easy to get alarmed about it - sometimes unnecessarily. If you read the blog you'll see there are some complicated issues she's dealing with.
But think about this simple fact: when you get together with someone you probably like different types of pizza, one of you likes to shower and the other to have a proper bath, one of you likes Radio 4 and the other likes BBC 6 music. Why should your feelings about sex be any different? If anything because sex is far more complicated than, say, choosing what type of pizza to have, you’re far more likely to have differences over it.
The key is to reach some sort of compromise if things are going to work.
Speaking of radio, I heard a classic radio moment yesterday on Radio 4 - it was ‘classic’ because any radio presenter, like myself, has experienced this. While writing a feature (waiting to do my own radio slot) I was listening to Jane Garvey on Woman's Hour. She was just beginning what should’ve been an interesting interview with one of Britain's oldest mothers - who was on the telephone from her home - and suddenly dogs started barking. And not just barking -they were going for it! I expected - as I'm sure Jane Garvey did - that she'd get her dogs under control pretty darn quick - but, no, it went on and on. Every presenter's nightmare.
TODAY’S THOUGHT: in moments like that the best you can do is keep calm - which Jane Garvey did - but inwardly you're sweating it, thinking something like, "is this ever going to end? Why didn't she have her dogs in a separate room when she knew she was going to be interviewed on live radio??" But that's a professional presenter speaking - it's easy to forget that people who aren't used to being interviewed don't even think about covering all bases when they're doing a phone interview. I've experienced many such moments when interviewing a guest who’s on the phone from their own home.
So my thought is - this applies to most areas of life - you can’t heap expectations of how you’d do something on to someone else who’ll have their own expectations.
Have been booked to do This Morning television on Friday - it's going to be a fun item and I know Ruth and Eamon Holmes who present on Fridays are going to be fantastic. Can't reveal what the item is as these things are always kept secret! What I can say is I'll be revealing something about a common behaviour all of us do.
Lovely to get a firm booking as I was ‘pencilled’ to do BBLB on Tuesday but it was cancelled. A pencil in this industry means they're tossing around a few ideas for the same slot and will make up their minds as soon as possible.
Love, Pam X
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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