Is porn a problem or pleasure in your life?

24/05/2013

When I did the live Web chat for the Sun newspaper on Tuesday we were overwhelmed with questions about porn. So I thought it was a good idea to tackle it in my Sun newspaper online column - my Sex and Love Academy. I hope you find some of the thoughts and suggestions helpful!

TODAY’S TIP: The rule is always: if something makes you feel uncomfortable then it's not right for you. If you and your partner disagree over using porn then you need to come to some sort of agreement or compromise.

It's never an impossible hurdle that is unless someone has a porn addiction and that can wreak havoc in a relationship. Otherwise these things can be worked out.

Wishing you the best of luck!

It's a long weekend here in the UK - I'll be back here Tuesday and probably tweet a couple tips over the weekend, have a good one, Pamx

Are you surprised by a sexual obsession you've developed?

23/05/2013

Thursday has come around at the speed of light and that means it's National Agony Aunt Day. Thanks as always for all your questions and today I've answered Jenny's dilemma. She went on a hen night and discovered an unexpected desire. Check out my answer to her on my homepage.

TODAY’S TIP: When it comes to love and sex I'm hardly ever surprised - especially when people discover new things about themselves. Don't freak out if suddenly you find something turns you on that you never considered before.

Different things can ignite unexpected desire in us. So that I'm not misunderstood [so easily done] I'm obviously talking about little sexual obsessions of the LEGAL type. If you found you've developed an interest in something illegal go seek psychological help IMMEDIATELY!!

Take care of yourself, Pamx

Have you got a celebrity crush? Has it gone too far? And out of control phone usage

22/05/2013

It was fantastic during the Sun newspaper webchat yesterday and here's a link to the video showing the wide range of dilemmas people put to me. If you are one of them thank you so much and I'm sorry there was no way we could get to everyone's questions.

Celebrity crushes: nowadays where access to celebrity news and gossip is everywhere many people are getting celebrity crushes that morphe into escapism. A little crush is fine and fun [Brad Pitt and George Clooney are mine] but when it overtakes your common sense, relationships and life, it's no joke.

I'm tackling this today in my weekly Love Doc slot at 8:05 AM with Angela and Spence on the Heart Northwest and Wales breakfast show.

Also in today's Sun newspaper I've commented on a survey about how many people would rather give up sex than their mobile phone - here's the link - it makes 'eye-opening' reading. 

TODAY’S TIP: Back to handling a celebrity crush that spun out of control - here are a few tips to consider: *it depends on your personality but going cold turkey works for some - cold turkey meaning you do not visit any celebrity websites or read any celebrity magazines, etc. And for others it works better to gradually reduce time on celebrity websites works for others.

*Do a reality check and keep a diary of every time you check celebrity websites, etc., You might be shocked.

*Also share your worries because the more you keep it secret the bigger the problem it becomes. So it shouldn't be a secret crush you should tell people it's getting out of hand.

Good luck, Pamx

Do you have a relationship or sex question for me today? Join me for a live web chat...

21/05/2013

I'm so looking forward to the live Web chat out at the Sun newspaper today at 1 PM - I'll be answering a variety of questions and I hope to have a few handy tips to share with you.

Do get in touch - here's the link to post your question on The Sun site - I look forward to answering them at 1 PM.

Warm wishes, Pamx

Worried your partner might cheat? Join me for a live web chat tomorrow...

20/05/2013

Don't forget I'll be answering your sex and relationship questions live at 1:30 PM tomorrow at the Sun newspaper. I look forward to hearing from you!

A recent survey [of over 2000 people] looked at how many people were cheating and also how many people were experimenting in the bedroom. Some interesting statistics were thrown up and I commented in the Sun newspaper about it.

No one should feel pressured to experiment particularly with the kinkier stuff but at the same time you can't completely reject your partner's advances. If you're in a full relationship then sex is pretty much expected to be part of it.

TODAY’S TIP: If their technique isn't rocking your world then it's up to you to guide them into something more satisfying.

That can seem daunting but he'd be far more daunting if your relationship broke up or they cheated because they felt so frustrated. There is NEVER any excuse for cheating but let's face it in the real world it often happens in response to rejection in the bedroom.

These are delicate matters and there is no quick fix but both partners need to commit to making the best of things.

Happy Monday, Pamx

Web chat announcement for Tuesday 130 PM UK time...

17/05/2013

I'm so excited to be invited by the Sun newspaper to do a web chat this coming Tuesday, May 21^st at 1 PM UK time. You can submit your questions on any relationship or sex dilemma. You can ask your question here on the Sun website. Do get in touch for the live web chat!

Some people believe you should sort your own problems out - which ultimately we all must do - however getting some answers and advice along the way is a wise choice and I hope to hear from you.

TODAY’S TIP: Never be shy or embarrassed to ask for help with a dilemma - it's a sign of strength not weakness.

Have a lovely weekend, I'll tweak a few tips over the weekend and I'm back here Monday, Pamx

Thinking about sleeping apart or already in separate bedrooms?

16/05/2013

I might've already mentioned earlier in the week about a survey showing how many couples are sleeping apart.

Now, in some cases there are very good reasons for this like shift work or medical issues where a person needs undisturbed sleep. But that's in the minority of cases and couples need to be aware that separate bedrooms can lead to separate lives. In today's Express newspaper I've commented on this and given some tips - hope you find the tips practical and helpful.

TODAY’S TIP: Except for the exceptions I'd always recommend a couple looks closely at working together to stay in the same bedroom. Please check my advice in the link.

Unfortunately due to work pressures and needing to take a little time off to celebrate two friends’ birthdays, etc. National Agony Aunt Day is postponed until next Thursday - thank you for your e-mails!

Late afternoon I'm seeing the Ice Age exhibition at the British Museum...cool!

And sweet dreams with your partner later tonight, Pamx

What methods do you use to get what you want from your partner?

15/05/2013

On a scale from completely direct to completely manipulative most of us fall somewhere on the middle - and hopefully nearer to "direct" - when it comes to the methods we used to get what we want from our partner.

On my Love Doc slot today at 8:05 AM with Angela and Spence on the Heart Northwest and Wales breakfast show we're chatting about these methods. I'm sure you might recognise yourself in a few of them.

A classic method - especially with a new partner - is to "flirt for favours"... I'm sure you can guess but I mean! Ultimately in a long-term relationship direct communication is better than manipulative communication.

TODAY’S TIP: Why not start being a bit more direct but obviously in a non-demanding way. Tell them you'd like help with whatever it is and you'd like to help them with something in return.

Practise makes perfect so think through what you want to ask for and how you can best ask for it.

Take care of yourself, Pamx

Is your child's exam stress stressing you out?

14/05/2013

We’re smack in the middle of exam season and it can be fraught for the entire family. So today I've posted an article with lots of tips for parents.

TODAY’S TIP: Check out my article for the best tips on my homepage at "hot off the press”.

You can get through it without feeling like your family life is falling apart.

Good luck, I've been there, Pamx

Breaking up is even harder to do nowadays. Also vibrant bridal dresses...

13/05/2013

Breaking up is painful no matter how you look at it and unfortunately it's been made more complicated nowadays with so much of our relationships online. Not only do you have to disentangle your life from your ex partner but you have to disentangle your lives on social networking sites. Please find a link to my Sun newspaper article with a few tips on how to do this so that you move on as smoothly as possible from your breakup. Good luck!

Do you need some top tips to boost your body image?

Hope you had a lovely weekend! On Saturday I had some comments and tips about body language in the Sun newspaper. Here's the link - I hope you find it helpful if you're struggling with these issues.

TODAY’S TIP: As I've said countless times there is an epidemic of body image issues - people have bought into the idea that you can have the perfect body and if you don't well you just not good enough. Nothing could be further from the truth and I hope you'll focus today on you as a whole person and not you as a "body".

I also commented in today's Daily Express newspaper on the new trend in brides wearing vibrant colours - Here are my thoughts included in this article.

Happy Monday, Pamx