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Have Toy Boys Become The Latest Celebrity Girls’ Fashion Accessory?
I analysed what's behind so many celebrity women having younger boyfriends.
As Hollywood goddess Halle Berry, 41, rolls up pregnant by her toy-boy lover who's 10 years younger then she is, it highlighted to me just how many celebrity women have started to follow this trend of being seen with someone much younger.
Yes, for decades there have been celebrity women like Joan Collins who adore the company of younger men and love to be seen with a bit of male arm-candy as their latest accessory. But on the whole, in previous generations, it was usually the Hollywood men who had gorgeous young actresses, models and singers in tow.
In the last decade or so, from Madonna and Demi Moore who have married their toy boys, to Sadie Frost and Cameron Diaz who have simply revelled in the company of younger men this is definitely a trend that's not fading fast.
What Are The Secret Reasons Underlying Celebrity Women And Their Toy Boys?
When you pick apart what it means to be a star and the world of celebrity if anything there are many reasons why a celebrity woman would definitely want to find a younger partner.
The Spotlight’s On You And Your Toy-boy!
For starters probably the most important reason why a celebrity might want to have a younger man to show off is the fact that they're going to get loads of column inches when they hit the red carpet with their latest hunk.
Getting attention that's going to get your photograph in the paper, and your life written about, is the life-blood of celebrity. Not only does your latest project need such attention to boost its profile - and so any publicity is good publicity - but also many people who end up as celebrities quite naturally crave that attention.
Your Personal Levels Of “Desirability”!
If there's one thing a celebrity woman wants to be then that's to look, and appear to be, desirable. How much more desirable can you look then when people see that a gorgeous young man wants to be with you? Your desirability rating goes up dramatically as soon as you’re seen in the company of someone as desirable as an attractive, young hunk.
This goes hand in hand with a celebrity’s need for attention because part of this need is feeling desirable. And in the celebrity world, if you’re given attention, than 99% of the time it's because you’re seen as someone desirable to write about and aspire to.
Our Obsession With Youthfulness!
Because we live in such a youth-oriented society one of the bigger secrets a celebrity woman will keep is about her age. By being seen out and about with someone that’s much younger than their toy-boy’s youth forms what psychologists call a "halo effect". This is where the toy-boy’s youthfulness rubs off on the celebrity.
Even when people know there's a big age gap the female celebrity still benefits from being seen with a younger man. Because we then make assumptions about her that she must at least be youthful in spirit and young at heart to attract someone that young.
Keeping The Control!
Whether the man's older or the woman's older usually the older person in a relationship has more control. The younger person has lesser status and so in this case the celebrity woman can make sure she's in charge of the relationship.
This issue of keeping control in a relationship is particularly important to someone who's used to getting what they want. And one thing celebrity women are used to is getting pretty much what they want - including people fawning all over them, as well as getting all sorts of freebies from gifts, to the best table in town, to invitations to a high profile events.
Last but not least let's not forget that the discerning celebrity woman might want to have some great sex. A younger man who's in peak physical condition may well be willing, ready, and able to give her exactly what she wants!
Published on MSN.co.UK
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