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My Thoughts on Pre-Marital Counselling
“There's a very big trend in America for pre-marriage counselling. The shocking divorce statistics of the last 10 years have had one benefit in making couples stop and think about what they're entering into.
What happens there usually arrives here - and I’ve started to see it particularly with women going into a first marriage. Even if their fiance isn't interested they’re often keen to consult me about how best to ensure harmony in their forthcoming marriage.
In my couples-coaching practise I’ve seen men also interested in discussing how to keep their relationship fresh and positive, but they like to do so in a less formal way then full-on "pre-marital counselling"."
What are the benefits to a couple of 'auditing' their relationship as it progresses - for example, discussing any issues as they arise with a therapist, or sharing common goals - rather than waiting for a crisis to seek help?
"It's extremely beneficial for a couple to continually "assess" the state of their relationship. However I don't think this necessarily means consulting a coach, counsellor or therapist. Once they have the skills to communicate well and tackle issues as they arise, they should be able to keep on track themselves. I don't let like people to unnecessarily "therapise" their relationship or their life, i.e., rely on what a coach, counsellor or therapist says rather than working things out themselves.
Through good communication, discussing things like each other's expectations, mutual respect, and enjoying life together (!), couples can protect their relationships. However even with the best intentions every couple faces some sort of crisis and at times they may need someone else to give them an unbiased opinion."
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
Discover the relationship between your dreams and your sex- and love-life! Go on a journey of self-discovery in this unique dream book. Case studies, a dream directory, and ‘dreamersises’ help you interpret your dreams.
My research found if a couple's been together more than one year it's unlikely you've tried any new sex tip, trick or technique for at least four months! Rescue's at hand with my 250 hottest sex tips for every aspect of your sex life.
No couple or single can be without this unique, best-selling book containing a vast range of techniques, tricks and tips to turn your lover on. From attracting someone new to recharging your old relationship, Fabulous, explores each of the sexual senses in turn!
No. 1 selling book offering you tons of fantastic sex tips PLUS a new and revolutionary ways of looking at sexual pleasure and ‘problems‘ and how they fit into a person's whole life and relationships.
No. 1 selling sex book covering everything from how your body works to infinite sex tips. The Daily Star said: 'Sinful Sex has something for everyone'
A unique parenting book giving you creative techniques to understand your child better through their dreams and nightmares. These reveal so much about a child that most parents miss out on. Strengthen your parent-child relationship, their confidence and well-being!