Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
The shy-guy –
The shy-guy is a man who is riddled with insecurities and that's why you need to give him extra clear signals that you’re interested and often initiate the first couple dates and phone calls. As with the often too-insecure female-outlook, the shy-guy often doubts that he's interesting enough, good-looking enough, or worthy enough of your attention. As long as he starts to come out of himself and gain in confidence he's a good long-term bet.
The confident man –
If only they could all be confident man - the guys who have enough self belief that they'll date in a fairly straightforward way. A man with natural confidence won't play games with you, won't try and undermine you, and is generally looking for a positive experience when dating. But don't take the positive vibe he gives out as a guaranteed that he's looking for a relationship or looking for one with you. And a confident man may still ultimately not be able to face being straight for defeat doesn't want to see you any longer. Don't be surprised if even he uses the "you're too good for me" way of finishing. What this means is actually he's not bowled over by you.
The arrogant bloke -
Often full of charisma, the arrogant type can be great fun and a challenge. And most women love a challenge at some point in their life! Unfortunately the flipside to this is they often have a specific checklist of female qualities they’re attracted to and they may well play games with you. By their very nature they also can be quite undermining to be around. Unless he feels he's met his "Waterloo" in you, you make get your fingers burnt with this sort of man.
The joker –
Often the centre of attention with their party pieces or own brand of humour, the joker is usually quite insecure. We all know the type. They can be the life and soul of a party and do crazy things to be the centre of attention. But the other side to their nature is often quite pessimistic and negative. Many women are attracted to the multi-layered personality a joker has. However they can be quite high maintenance to go out with - expecting you to laugh at their antics and then scrape them off the floor when they've had too much to drink and want to cry into their beer.
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