Squaring up to Your Shynes...
If you suffer with shyness...
Kissing is very important to seduction. Not only does the human mouth form the vessel by which we receive our "life blood" - food and water - but we also communicate through it and make love with it.
Using the lips and tongue and mouth in kissing mimics the act of full penetration during making love so it's highly symbolic and erotic.
So never underestimate the power of a kiss. Literally hundreds of women have complained to me personally that their man stops kissing them after the main honeymoon phase except say goodbye or hello. Studies that research the ups and downs of sexual relationships also confirm this - that women miss the kissing that they get early in a relationship. So keep puckering up whether you've been together one year, 10 years or 20 years!
Ensure your teeth are clean and your breath is fresh and that the person you're with wants to be kissed.
It's all right if you've both been eating garlicky or spicy food but not if only you have. If you're not near a toothbrush suck a mint before trying to kiss them (after sucking a mint give your partners some oral pleasure and give them some tingly sensations!).
Start slowly and carefully - no lunging allowed! Men should probably take the lead as one poll found that 56% of people think men should initiate kissing.
A certain amount of wetness is sexy and seductive but make sure you don't get too much saliva into his/her mouth!
Relax and loosen your lips so they don't feel hard to the touch. Only 9% of women think that firm pressure makes for the best kissing.
If he/she is enjoying your kiss then keep it going. A long kiss is very erotic.
Take a breather if your mouth gets tired. While you're not kissing you can simply nuzzle their face and neck gently.
Also try stroking their lips gently with the very tips of your fingers.
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
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No. 1 selling book offering you tons of fantastic sex tips PLUS a new and revolutionary ways of looking at sexual pleasure and ‘problems‘ and how they fit into a person's whole life and relationships.
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