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Love is in the air - seven signs that say he's attracted to you! Men often complain that women send out complicated signals but quite frankly I think they have a lot to answer for! It can be hard to tell whether you're the object of his real affection - or quite frankly merely a sex object in his eyes.
If you're looking for more than a fling, check out these seven signs:
Sign No. 1/He Shows His Vulnerable Side:
Even sensitive guys tend to conceal their vulnerability until they like and trust you. And this is even truer if you're seeing a super-masculine type. The minute he starts showing you some vulnerability it’s a clear sign he trusts you. And if he trusts you, then he's on his way to being hooked.
He might reveal his vulnerable side to you about any aspect of his life - like telling you he doesn't feel secure at work, or that he fears he’s the worst player on his five-aside footie-team, and even in little ways like he's worried about choosing the right gift for his mother's birthday.
Sign No. 2/ The Feelgood Factor:
When he starts thinking about your well-being and wanting to make sure that you feel good in his company - and generally speaking - he’s really starting to care. Yup, of course he's going to flirt with you on the first couple dates - and that feels good. But caring about your well-being is a whole different level. So let's say you're ill, have to cancel a date, and he says he'll bring you a takeaway - that's an excellent sign. If he says to ring him once you're better… not so good!
Sign No. 3/ Your Desires Become Equal:
Okay, so the first couple dates he'll bend to your desire to eat Thai or to see a Rom-com, etc. Then, if he’s not that bothered, he starts elbowing your suggestions aside in favour of his. However the clear sign he’s really taken with you is when he starts putting your suggestions on a par with his again.
Sign No. 4/ Ch-ch-ch-changes He'll Make:
When you first met he never missed Friday night with the lads, the big match on Saturday, and his gym nights? Well, he never missed a gym session! But when you start to mean something to him, is when he'll start finding some flexibility. He changes his gym session so he can go to a gig with you. He changes Friday with the lads because you're having a dinner party, etc.
Sign No. 5/ The Thrill of His DIY Skills:
Yes, a few men really do like fixing a wonky shelf, changing that impossible-to-reach lightbulb, rewiring a socket, etc. But most can think of more than things to do and won't start showing off their DIY skills until they care about you. So when he hears you’ve got a leaky tap, and he's thrilled to help and offers to take a look, his heart is in it.
Sign No. 6/Meet The Family:
You know you're in there when he wants you to meet his brother, his sister, even his parents. Men are very selective about this and many won't even consider mixing the girlfriend with family until he's really bothered about you. For some men it's the same with their mates. You won't get a look in until the day you mean something to him.
Sign No. 7/He Doesn't Mind the "Girl Stuff ":
Finally, the day he wants to massage your back because you're having bad period pains is the day you know you've got him hook, line and sinker! An even bigger sign is when he'll nip to the shops for you because you've run out of panty liners. Many men can be quite squeamish about girl stuff but often they lose that squeamishness when they've lost their heart to you. Although an important point to note is that a certain type of diehard, manly-man never gets used to this stuff!
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