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No one who's been through a break-up can deny how utterly miserable it feels. Any way you look at it, breaking-up is hard to do and soul-destroying. When left by a person you’ve loved more than anything you’d do anything to change their mind. And feel helpless in the face of their rejection. If it's been a mutual decision these are often accompanied by much to-ing and fro-ing, terrific ups and downs during the decision process. You two hurtle through the process questioning, “should we break-up, make-up, stay together, separate?” And even if you're the one who's decided to leave, most people leave because they've been terribly unhappy.
Not only do people experience many painful emotions – grief, rage, regret, hopelessness - but many describe a real physical hurt. It's been reported that Heather Mills McCartney has felt an actual physical pain in the bloody aftermath of her break-up from Sir Paul. What's fascinating, if it wasn’t so sad, is there may be something in such feelings. Recent research from the University of Texas shows that the stresses and strains of relationship breakdown can trigger long-term cardiovascular problems in women. It's staggering to think that divorcing women have a 50 per cent increased risk of heart disease compared to women who never divorce. This wasn’t found to be true for men.
With roughly 40 per cent of marriages ending in divorce and cohabiting relationships breaking down at twice that rate, as a life coach and agony aunt I'm concerned with huge levels of emotional distress in this process. But in light of this medical research it's even more important women heal a broken heart in proactive ways.
No one can claim to be unscathed by a serious break-up so here’s my guide to help you through the worst –
Taking these steps may just protect your heart - emotionally and physically. Finally, it's quite common to feel extremely depressed for two to three weeks after a major break-up. After that you should start having some better days interspersed with sad ones. However if real despair continues longer then this consult your doctor about depression.
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I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
Discover the relationship between your dreams and your sex- and love-life! Go on a journey of self-discovery in this unique dream book. Case studies, a dream directory, and ‘dreamersises’ help you interpret your dreams.
My research found if a couple's been together more than one year it's unlikely you've tried any new sex tip, trick or technique for at least four months! Rescue's at hand with my 250 hottest sex tips for every aspect of your sex life.
No couple or single can be without this unique, best-selling book containing a vast range of techniques, tricks and tips to turn your lover on. From attracting someone new to recharging your old relationship, Fabulous, explores each of the sexual senses in turn!
No. 1 selling book offering you tons of fantastic sex tips PLUS a new and revolutionary ways of looking at sexual pleasure and ‘problems‘ and how they fit into a person's whole life and relationships.
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A unique parenting book giving you creative techniques to understand your child better through their dreams and nightmares. These reveal so much about a child that most parents miss out on. Strengthen your parent-child relationship, their confidence and well-being!