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* FAMILY COMMUNICATION – Positive family communication is absolutely based on a respectful atmosphere where you actually listen to what each other has to say. It's easy to feel that with of your years of experience you know what's best. This may be true! But the quickest way to stop the flow of family conversation is to always be right without listening to watch your team has to say.
An atmosphere of blame will also prevent good communication. If every time something goes wrong, a plate is broken, a mug is left on the coffee-table, etc., a culprit has to be found than this can actually generate a very negative atmosphere. Yes people have to take responsibility for their actions, but pointing the finger of blame at every tiny little incident can take things too far.
* DIVORCE - Divorce is a traumatic time for everyone. On the whole research shows that younger children fare better than the pre-teens and adolescents. For one thing, young children don't understand as much and their time frames are different to older children. For example, if they haven't seen daddy for a few days they may not even notice!
Pre-teens and teens are also become very anxious that if they've been causing stresses and strains that this may have contributed to the marriage breakdown. They even fear they might be the root cause of the divorce. It's imperative that any child is told clearly, and more than once, that a divorce is not their fault.
Keep the lines of communication open and tell your teen that they can ask you what ever they want, whenever they want.
Don't shy away from their questions. If you answer with tact and confidence you generate a more confident feeling in them.
Give age appropriate information. What you tell a 13 year-old may be different than what you tell you 17 year-old.
Do not run down your ex-partner to your children.
Let their school know that they're "going through" a divorce. Research shows that schoolwork particularly in teenage boys suffers during a divorce. So as well as their emotional well-being you want their teachers to keep an eye out for their academic performance.
I’m excited that my new book ‘THE LAWS OF SISTERHOOD - The girlfriends’ guide to successful dating and finding the one’ is available to preorder on Amazon.
I hope you find it a unique guide that emphasises how single friends can help each other make the most of the dating scene. As well as containing a vast array of tips and techniques to help you to dating success - everything from the first date, online dating, the signals he gives out through different behaviours, and how to improve your own signals are included.
“Pam’s dating book is inspired and will make you a much more attractive and confident date” Jo Hemmings, Behavioural psychologist and author
My new book The Emotional Eater's Diet is published in the UK on May 15 - I’m very excited as I hope emotional eaters - women or men will find it helpful. Each year 2/3s of people start a diet and 20% start a new diet each month. Yet 95% of diets aren’t successful.
I firmly believe that emotional eating to soothe difficult feelings is the culprit behind most of this failure. My book has a huge range of practical tips/strategies to help understand your emotions and manage your appetite. There are mini-quizes and real case studies.
It’s available to preorder on Amazon. Please remember that food can fuel your energy needs but not your emotional needs. Take care!
I'm delighted that my latest book Sex Academy was endorsed by my fellow self-help author Siski Green who said: "Sex Academy really is THE Bible of sex books. The lessons and lectures cover the A-Z of everything you want to know - from Anal sex to getting Zero sex." I hope you enjoy it!
I was so excited and HAPPY to write this book on happiness covering my 10 unique Happiness Principles. I hope it helps increase your well-being, contentment, and happiness. I've packed it with dozens and dozens of easy-to-use strategies, plus life-changing insights. Based on about five years of collecting case studies and research I hope you'll find it helpful.
My latest sex guide's out - I've gone through thousands of questions people ask me about sex - from why they don't feel desire to how to handle a partner's kinky fetish. Here are the answers plus loads of tricks and techniques. Enjoy!
Discover the relationship between your dreams and your sex- and love-life! Go on a journey of self-discovery in this unique dream book. Case studies, a dream directory, and ‘dreamersises’ help you interpret your dreams.
My research found if a couple's been together more than one year it's unlikely you've tried any new sex tip, trick or technique for at least four months! Rescue's at hand with my 250 hottest sex tips for every aspect of your sex life.
No couple or single can be without this unique, best-selling book containing a vast range of techniques, tricks and tips to turn your lover on. From attracting someone new to recharging your old relationship, Fabulous, explores each of the sexual senses in turn!
No. 1 selling book offering you tons of fantastic sex tips PLUS a new and revolutionary ways of looking at sexual pleasure and ‘problems‘ and how they fit into a person's whole life and relationships.
No. 1 selling sex book covering everything from how your body works to infinite sex tips. The Daily Star said: 'Sinful Sex has something for everyone'
A unique parenting book giving you creative techniques to understand your child better through their dreams and nightmares. These reveal so much about a child that most parents miss out on. Strengthen your parent-child relationship, their confidence and well-being!